IN A MEMORY

REACTING TO SITUATIONS

REACTING TO SITUATIONS
We find ourselves in situations that require instant reactions and for others, we always plan of reacting. When we find ourselves in situations where we can’t take time to think of our next move. Our reactions sometimes can make the situation worse. There are also situations that we do not need to think about too much about them. Sometimes what is in front of us is what it is but if your instinct says different never dismiss it casually.
As I said different situations require different reactions hence I will talk about a few of those situations that I think affect us and sometimes we react wrong. First, when you are in a relationship and found out that your partner is doing wrong to you. It may be cheating, they lied about something, or disrespected you. 
When we realize a partner's betrayal we are angry and all kinds of assumptions go through our minds. In this, we may have proof or you come to know about it from other people. First thing you need to analyze the evidence you have. You may think you have enough proof but if it can be explained and have a good reason behind it, it will not be helpful during the next stages. If you do not have enough proof to back up what you say, then you need to be patient. Never let the partner know you are on to them. They will continue deceiving you. No one likes being caught in a lie. Hence, behave the same just be watchful. Watch what they do when they think no one is watching. As they say, actions speak louder than words. If they betrayed you, things will start coming to you. You look at everything they do with a different perspective.
If you are sure the evidence you have is enough to confront them. Be calm, do not allow them to know what you are thinking for by that they will understand what you want and start saying what they think you want to hear. When they explain tell them what you found out about them. As they are explaining you realize some patterns when they are lying, e.g. stuttering, going out of topic, blaming other things except themselves, and evading eye contact. Keep pushing let them sweat, eventually, they will slip. Never let anyone know the effects of their betrayal on you. Take some time alone be somewhere you can let the pain flow. After the anger is gone, think of what you want to do. Think of what can heal the wounds and do it.
It is always right to understand your environment when you are in a new place. I do not mean you change who you are, I mean to understand everything crucial to your survival. Never be quick to talk but be quick to listen. There was this woman. She had a family and used to live a comfortable and happy life. They had their problems and sometimes they would differ in thinking. Moreover, they would always remember they were a family. The husband had a very important job in the government. This woman worked as a doctor in one of the local hospitals. The children were all in school. One-day people came into their home asking for their husband. The woman did not understand why and who the funny-looking guys were but her instinct told her not to trust them. She started threatening to call the police but stopped midway when she realized they were armed. The children were upstairs in their rooms. She knew she needed to do anything she can to protect the kids. However, the children heard the commotion and came down to check what was wrong. When the funny-looking people saw the children, they were more than happy to have more pons on someone else’s chessboard. She had been taught to fight by her husband. He also taught her the ways of the criminals he mostly worked against. The husband was an agent buried in the secrets of the government. He had prepared her for such kinds of situations as he knew one day his work would catch up to him as the criminals he had put behind bars or destroyed were powerful and never forgotten or forgiven. He knew one day, one of them will want their revenge, and what better way to achieve that than going after what he cared for the most? His family.
The woman (let’s call her Jessica), understood to achieve what she wanted, she had to act like she was ready to cooperate. So she told them that she did not know where her husband was at the moment but he usually left a note in one of the books in his office for emergencies. They asked her to show them the note so she took them to the office. There was indeed a note. She knew if she tried anything her children would pay the price. Her children were terrified but she kept hoping they would not try something foolish. What the funny-looking people did not know is that the information in the note seemed like what they were looking for but it was not. To entice them more, Jessica told them that the coordinates were not complete and the only way to complete them was to use a map that was kept in a hidden safe in the garage. What the funny-looking people did not know was that Jessica was luring them away from the children. While walking to the garage, Jessica started asking them questions about who they were working for and the reason why they were looking for her husband. The funny-looking people did not find a reason not to answer her questions, after all, she was a woman who was just a doctor.
When they were looking at the map, Jessica left the garage and ran to the house closing the doors behind her. Getting to where the children were, she asked them to run upstairs. After they were all in one room, she hid the children after calling the police. They waited patiently in their hiding place. Jessica was ready to protect her children come what may but was hoping the police would get there quicker. She could hear the funny-looking people yelling for her to open the door, but she did not react. Eventually, they left and the police arrived.
Sometimes, the situations we find ourselves in require an intelligent reaction rather than a physical one. Understand your options and what you can lose or gain if react according to every option you think you have. Your only goal should always be to survive until you can’t. look around you and notice what could be helpful for you. For example, you could be kidnapped and tied in a warehouse. If the kidnappers never blinded folded you look around, and see the landmarks. Understand what they want from you. If the location of the warehouse is in a remote area, then try to watch the surroundings. If you are blindfolded, then use the other four senses. Take your time if you think you have some until you make a conclusive plan for your escape. Use the environment to your advantage. There is always a way you just need to find it and use it the right way. understand how far the kidnappers are ready to go to know how far you should go. Understand their plan and make it work for you. Your mind should always be your greatest superpower. Wait until they are vulnerable enough to execute your plans. Your first objective should never be revenge or justice but staying alive.
The last situation is where one loses everything, monetary, family, respect, or employment wise. During the unfolding of such a situation, it is easy to be distraught rather than it is to fight. Most of us, feel like the world has ended and there is nothing to fight for anymore. Hopelessness never helped anybody. the first reaction is separation from the world to understand and give time for the situation to sink in. never confront those who have wronged you for there is nothing but pain to be found. If you have wronged someone then you need to make things right not by words but by actions for this will give you purpose for a while.
Eventually, after any kind of situation, you will need to move on. Find another meaning in life. As long as you are alive then you need to live. 
A day comes and goes
Every day is a day,
Every night is night,
That will never change,
But what happens after every sunrise,
Is what will be remembered,

When I wake up,
And hear the chirping of birds,
Their sweet melodies,
Fill the atmosphere,
They are happy,

I can’t understand,
Why the world has to move on,
When everything in my life,
Is it a halt,
When my heart enrages with sorrow,
My eyes like blood redden,
How can the trees still sway?
And the sunshine brighter,

I didn’t understand,
How the crops could blossom,
And give fresh fruits,
When everything else is rotten,

I couldn’t understand,
Why does the chicken still have feathers,
How the mammals could have fur,
To hide their nakedness,
When my life was exposed,

Now I understand,
Am not the center of the universe,
Am just among the many,
Created by the Supreme,

Now I understand,
The countdown will continue,
Even in my darkest hour,
Because every day comes and goes.