Indian Marriage Meet

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Days passed. My so called relatives started with pouring lot of proposals for my marriage. Honestly, I was not interested to proceed further. 

But one of my relative gave 2 proposals for which Horoscope was matching for both the proposal. Everything was good with the 1st proposal but the guy seemed to be too fat whereas I was lean, very lean. So I politely rejected as it would hurt If I say this after they come to meet. 

But no one listened to me. My relative uncle said it is a nice proposal and made the arrangements to meet.

The guy and his family everyone seemed to be good except that the boy was fat. He was very decent and respectful. Seriously his family was so good and were very friendly and loving. 

But my previous experience does not make me believe for fall in to any of these soon. Even though they might be good in real, I don't want to fall in the trap. My mom was so happy that this was the first proposal who said OK to me. She liked the family and the guy very much and wanted me to say ok. 

I was in complete dilemma to say no or Yes. If I say no, he might get hurt as I had also gone through rejections earlier. I don't want to do the same thing for others.

Its easy to say or give advice to others, not to do body shaming. But we have to say it only when we are truly not concerned about that fact. I was not convinced. 

There are many who give big lectures and talk big sentences and stand against body shaming, color of skin etc... But my question is, are they really telling it from their heart? If you go ask them marry a girl or guy who are categorized at the above words, will they say ok without any objection?

I bet no. I was reluctant and contemplating on this. Am I making a mistake if I say no because of his weight? But  I cannot say yes just because it will look like I rejected him for his weight. 

Do I really like him? I don't know. Is he the real one for me?  

After much thought, I declared no from my side after 2 days with a heavy heart.  I know I was doing wrong by judging a person based on the looks alone.

I cried and punished myself without eating for 2 days. My mom was scolding ,giving left and right at me for my rejection. 

"you are the one who is so lean. You are the one who looks like a girl with some illness. Not him being fat. These days girls prefer only good looks and not how the guy is . You people don't see the heart and character of the guy, instead go fall for his looks"

My mom kept on shouting . Whenever she got time, she scolded me. 

"because of girls like you, the good guys are suffering. We are giving too much freedom la, freedom for you to make decision, that is why you are doing this much. If it had been our times, they would not have even asked our opinion. If he is a good guy, irrespective of his wealth, they would marry us to him"

More than me rejecting, my mom's words were hurting me to the core. I deeply regret rejecting him.

I was so much distressed about this marriage meetings and my decision. I also had more work pressure.

That was the time that I got offer from new company. Everything happened suddenly. Even though it was not the expected package I agreed to it.

I consulted with my cousin in US and he gave advice on what to do and not to do regarding resignation.

The next day my manager was on leave so I submitted my resignation without informing any of my teammates. Immediately my supervisor asked me the reason and I told her that I have other plans to work. 

For nearly 20 to 25 days I did not reveal about my resignation to any of my team mates and only my manager and Supervisor knows. 

This was a dare move for me to submit resignation which I thought was impossible for me to a get another job.

This situation reminded me the quote "Best things happen when we least expect them." 

But fate in the form of my mother, never leaves me happy even for a minute. She came to me announcing that another proposal is on the way, the coming weekend to meet me.

There she goes again.