Girl Code <Book guide for teen girls>

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Wouldn't it be great if, at the exact moment you decide you're ready for a relationship, your perfect match miraculously appears at your door with a smile and your favourite foods and suggests a cosy movie night on the couch?

Unfortunately, there's a little more work involved in finding a partner that's right for you, including asking yourself some pointy questions and being prepared to wait for the right person.

This can help if:

you feel ready for a relationship

you've had relationships with people who weren't right for you

you don't know what kind of person is right for you

you don't know how to find that special person.

What are you looking for?

It isn't always a simple matter to decide if you want to get into a relationship with another person. Whether you're on the lookout for someone, or already have a particular person in mind, it's a good idea to be clear about what you want. First of all, ? Are you comfortable with your current life situation and want someone to share new experiences with? It's not unusual for some people to look for a relationship as a way of 'fixing' something in their life, or because they simply like the idea of it. But making sure you're ready can help you to feel secure and happier when you find someone you want to be with.

When you know you're ready, think about what aspects of a relationship are important to you and what personal qualities you value in yourself and others. You can even make a list and underline the things you won't compromise on.

Try to avoid just listing superficial things like 'long hair', 'a cute smile' or 'blue eyes'. These things can distract you from what's going to be important, such as whether you are compatible on a personal level. Of course, physical attraction is important, too, but it's amazing how irresistible someone can become as you get to know them.

You might decide you like people who are:

trustworthy

honest

affectionate

respectful

kind

generous

fun

loyal.

Once you've made your list, keep it in mind when you're meeting new people or getting to know someone better. It'll help you to figure out whether a connection you feel with someone could lead to something meaningful.

It's also worth thinking about what kind of relationship you want. Do you want to be in an exclusive relationship with one person, or would you be open to you and your partner consensually ? It's important for you and your future partner to agree on this, to avoid misunderstandings that could lead to one of you feeling hurt.

Do you already have someone in mind?

If you're attracted to someone and are thinking about having a relationship with them, then spend some time getting to know them first. The more you discover about them and let them get to know about you, the better idea you'll have about whether you're right for each other.

To help you decide, here are some questions to ask yourself:

Do they have the qualities that I value?

Do we communicate easily?

Do I feel relaxed and myself around this person?

Do we respect each other's beliefs and cultures?