So... I'm going to my mom's next week... haven't seen her in almost two weeks...
I was looking around and found 21 'Signs' of an Abusive Parent.....
1. Withholding or Making a Child "Earn" Basic Necessities
Parents who maliciously deprive their children of their basic needs or make their children feel guilty for receiving the things a parent is obligated to provide.
Yeah... my mom and dad do this....
My dad tells me I should be happy I have a roof over my head and food and that he doesn't beat me, my mom says the same.... just more damaging....
2. "Parentification" or Enmeshment
Parentification, Also known as "Covert Incest" or enmeshment, describes a "too close for comfort" relationship between a parent and child where boundaries are blurred and the child can end up feeling less like a child and more like a romantic partner.
I don't think my mom or dad have done this.....
3. Favoring One Child Over Another
According to Ellen Weber Lilly, Ph.D, author of "The Favorite Child," not all instances of child favoritism are abusive, but when it does become abusive, favorite children can grow up with a distorted, inflated view of themselves, while unfavored children can grow up with a distorted, negative view of themselves.
I'm not sure.... I have two step-brothers and an older half-sister..... my half-sister is almost 18, and I feel like my mom likes her more... my half-sister also agreed with my step-dad that I was being disrespectful to my mom when I told her that she was being mean and threatening me.....
That was only 2 weeks ago.....
4. Incessant Teasing/Humiliation
According to Karyl McBridge, Ph.D., L.M.F.T, a classic sign of childhood emotional abuse is the use of shame and humiliation. This can include harsh, incessant teasing or putting a child down in front of an audience.
I think so... my mom calls me Chubby Monkey, a bully, threatens to beat me in public if I don't cooperate.... would get annoyed and talk to me that I was being difficult when I wouldn't tell her why a dress was uncomfortable...
I remember I wore a black shirt and it revealed my chest SO MUCH... I cried and started to get emotional, my mom didn't give two sh*ts and said it looked fine...
YOUR DAUGHTER IS CRYING AND HER CHEST, ALMOST HER BREASTS ARE SHOWING!!!!
5. Not Giving a Child Privacy
Not allowing a child to have age-appropriate privacy may impact their ability to trust others, maintain their own boundaries and respect the boundaries of others. Reading a child's diary for example, is an example of Emotional Abuse
H-LL YES, MY MOM FITS THIS TO A TEE!!!
SHE WALKS IN WHEN I'M NAKED, DOESN'T GIVE TWO SH*TS IF I TELL HER TO GO AWAY, UNDRESSES ME, LIKES LOOKING AT MY A** WHEN I'M WEARING UNDERWEAR AND A SHIRT BECAUSE ALL MY PANTS ARE DIRTY, READS MY WATTPAD AND GETS ANGRY WHEN I LOG OUT!!!!!
IT'S BULLSH*T!!!!!
6. Threatening Physical Violence (Even If There Is No Intent to Actually Use Violence)
Threatening physical violence creates an unsafe environment for a child. Even if no physical harm is actually done, this kind of fear tactic is emotionally abusive, and may be just as damaging as actual physical abuse.
OH, H-LL YEAH, MY MOM FITS THIS MORE THAN LAST TIME!!!!
SHE'D THREATEN TO SLAP ME, BEAT ME, EVEN TOLD ME IF I DIDN'T HAVE A SENSORY DISORDER THAT SHE'D BEAT ME!!!!!
