The Joy of Transformation

Spiritual Gifts: Empath

How to Know if you're an empath

I'm not sure when I discovered I was an empath. A google search one day lead me to a website for empaths. And my whole world opened up. And I knew in an instant that was me. I just always thought I was strange/different. But finding out what an empath was, explained a lot.

Empaths are highly sensitive people who absorb the feelings of others. Have you ever been sitting around, just minding your own damn business and you feel random moods that don't belong to you. Like anger, anxiety, sadness. You could be picking up on someone else's emotions. Have you ever met someone and could tell instantly without them even doing or saying anything at all, what kind of mood they're in? Do you go out with every bit of intention of having a good time, but feel exhausted/overwhelmed after only a few hours of being out? You, my friend, are an empath.

Signs that you're an Empath

1. People tell you all of their goddamn business and you don't even ask them to. (people naturally see you as a confidant, strangers stop and talk to you, even if you have on your resting bitch face)

2. You need a lot of alone time (empaths become overwhelmed by the energies and emotions of others and need time to recharge)

3. You hate crowds

4. Relationships are hard for you (relationships are hard because you're afraid of losing your autonomy and also you absorbing others emotions are amplified with your partner. Your partner may find it hard to understand that you need alone time and take it as a rejection. You have a hard time saying no and setting boundaries with your partner, because you're a natural nurturer. This causes you to stay overwhelmed and stressed. Some empaths even choose to stay single for this reason. However, it's also a good idea to find a partner who understands and respects your boundaries.)

5. You like to sleep alone! (this also makes relationships hard. Due to traditions of society, couples sleep together. Empaths never get used to this! Energy fields blend during sleep which can overwhelm empaths. It's hard enough for us to sleep without adding someone else in the bed!)

6. You go out of your way to help people. You care too much. You have a big heart.

7. No Fake shit ( you can see fake people from a mile away. You hate them instantly and stay away from them)

8. The "vibe" of the room matters to you a lot (choosing who to be roommates or office mates with is a big deal. Because you absorb people's energies and if the people you are around are miserable people, guess how you're going to feel?)

9. You can't read or watch tragic stuff (I've had to cut out really violent movies out of my life. And even stopped watching Outlander due to all of the rape, even though I really enjoyed the plotline. I absolutely can not handle a picture of an animal being hurt or abused.)

10. You know when people are lying (this kind of sucks because sometimes people lie with good intentions. Maybe to protect you from the truth. But you know they're lying and it makes you mad because you want the truth. And sometimes you wish you didn't have this gift.)

11. You have a calming effect on other people

12. You are highly intuitive and often rely on gut feelings.

13. You have mood swings, people call you "unpredictable or mysterious." Because most people don't know what an empath is, most people don't understand why you aren't as social as others. Why your mood can switch at a drop of a hat. Why you hide in your room sometimes. Why you'll ignore a phone call or a text and respond back or call, only when/if you're ready. It's not personal, you're just trying to protect your energy. Other people don't get that and it can be agonizing to try to explain, so you wind up getting called unpredictable, mysterious, strange, complicated.