HaLoFo

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The short of the announcement is that I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m asexual. Growing up, I never understood that girls my age had crushes or what the hell they meant when saying they wanted to be fucked. Like, settle the fuck down or what not, but I just couldn’t get the hype. I was also a late bloomer, which I thought had something to do with it. News flash, it didn’t. 
          	
          	So there I was thinking that maybe I just don’t like guys, I might be gay. Lol, nope. Girls are gorgeous but I don’t feel like getting freaky with them. I realised I feel the same way about guys. They look alright I guess, but nothing too mind blowing.
          	
          	I’ve kissed both guys and girls, albeit drunk, it hadn’t made a difference. I’ve also been told I’m conventionally attractive, athletic and being almost six foot tall, I easily brushed off my lack of interest in guys because, “I didn’t feel like dating someone shorter than me.” Bitch move, I know.
          	
          	In earlier fanfics I’ve written, the idea of a love interest comes somewhat disjointed to the rest of the story line and that’s because I’ve never felt those strong emotions or attraction to another person in my life and it fucking shows.
          	
          	Growing up we read all about fairytales and love stories, and assume we too will like someone and then fall in love some day. So I waited for that moment through my teenage years, and again going into my twenties before coming to the realisation that it may never arrive. 
          	
          	People always tell me, “oh but you’re young! Give it time.” But who the hell prepares you for if it never comes? When your friends are all dating and getting engaged, and you’re genuinely not interested, what then? 
          	
          	I haven’t found an answer, and I don’t think I will any time soon. The term asexual fits, at least I think it does. I like the idea of romantic attraction but idk if I actually feel it.
          	
          	For anyone who reads this, sorry. I’m not dead, just trying my best not to drown under the pressure of society and the weight of the world

StevannieChang

@HaLoFo yeah, at least it provided some guidance on me to have a anchor on my sexuality
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HaLoFo

@StevannieChang don’t worry I’m not offended. 
          	  
          	  I started to realise around 15/16 I wasn’t interested in dating or remotely liking someone when at a sleepover with some friends. They were boy crazy and I was just there trying to figure out what the hell they meant. That continued and I’ve never had a crush or interest in someone. 
          	  
          	   But when I was 18 and started going clubbing and going to uni, I realised I wasn’t attracted to guys or girls and again, blamed it on developing late because asexuality is never spoken about. Guys and girls are nice to look at but I didn’t want anything more. I’ve made a lot of friends this way :’) 
          	  
          	  I really only accepted that I might be asexual at 21 because no matter how much I tried to be interested, I just couldn’t. It seemed like a lot of effort to keep up pretending I was because I was trying to do what all my friends were. (Date, sleep around, etc, nothing interested me). Hope that makes sense!
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HaLoFo

@Memphisfaith don’t be sorry about ranting! Sometimes you just gotta do it. And I’m proud that you’ve been able find yourself, it’s not the easiest thing to do :)
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HaLoFo

this message may be offensive 
The short of the announcement is that I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m asexual. Growing up, I never understood that girls my age had crushes or what the hell they meant when saying they wanted to be fucked. Like, settle the fuck down or what not, but I just couldn’t get the hype. I was also a late bloomer, which I thought had something to do with it. News flash, it didn’t. 
          
          So there I was thinking that maybe I just don’t like guys, I might be gay. Lol, nope. Girls are gorgeous but I don’t feel like getting freaky with them. I realised I feel the same way about guys. They look alright I guess, but nothing too mind blowing.
          
          I’ve kissed both guys and girls, albeit drunk, it hadn’t made a difference. I’ve also been told I’m conventionally attractive, athletic and being almost six foot tall, I easily brushed off my lack of interest in guys because, “I didn’t feel like dating someone shorter than me.” Bitch move, I know.
          
          In earlier fanfics I’ve written, the idea of a love interest comes somewhat disjointed to the rest of the story line and that’s because I’ve never felt those strong emotions or attraction to another person in my life and it fucking shows.
          
          Growing up we read all about fairytales and love stories, and assume we too will like someone and then fall in love some day. So I waited for that moment through my teenage years, and again going into my twenties before coming to the realisation that it may never arrive. 
          
          People always tell me, “oh but you’re young! Give it time.” But who the hell prepares you for if it never comes? When your friends are all dating and getting engaged, and you’re genuinely not interested, what then? 
          
          I haven’t found an answer, and I don’t think I will any time soon. The term asexual fits, at least I think it does. I like the idea of romantic attraction but idk if I actually feel it.
          
          For anyone who reads this, sorry. I’m not dead, just trying my best not to drown under the pressure of society and the weight of the world

StevannieChang

@HaLoFo yeah, at least it provided some guidance on me to have a anchor on my sexuality
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HaLoFo

@StevannieChang don’t worry I’m not offended. 
            
            I started to realise around 15/16 I wasn’t interested in dating or remotely liking someone when at a sleepover with some friends. They were boy crazy and I was just there trying to figure out what the hell they meant. That continued and I’ve never had a crush or interest in someone. 
            
             But when I was 18 and started going clubbing and going to uni, I realised I wasn’t attracted to guys or girls and again, blamed it on developing late because asexuality is never spoken about. Guys and girls are nice to look at but I didn’t want anything more. I’ve made a lot of friends this way :’) 
            
            I really only accepted that I might be asexual at 21 because no matter how much I tried to be interested, I just couldn’t. It seemed like a lot of effort to keep up pretending I was because I was trying to do what all my friends were. (Date, sleep around, etc, nothing interested me). Hope that makes sense!
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HaLoFo

@Memphisfaith don’t be sorry about ranting! Sometimes you just gotta do it. And I’m proud that you’ve been able find yourself, it’s not the easiest thing to do :)
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HaLoFo

In all honesty, I’ve gotten to the point where if this lockdown extends for a while (which in WA it should be at least go for two weeks not the piss poor five days they’re going for, as it’s better to be safe than sorry), I’m going to just post up all the draft stories and chapters I’ve written. They vary in content but most were actually started last year during lock down when I procrastinated my uni work. 
          
          These include, but are not limited to:
          2x HP stories, 3x Naruto, 1x Tokyo Ghoul, 1x KnB, 1x Shadows of the Village (Part 2 of my Naruto story), 1x Percy Jackson, 1x AoT, 1x Death Note, 1x HxH, 1x Mobile Suit Gundam—Iron Blooded Orphans, 1x OHSHC
          
          I figure just posting them all would be okay, as I flicker between them all and my current ones frequently, as inspiration comes. 
          
          I think it’ll be a good distraction from COVID since I won’t be able to do much else because my brother is immunocompromised due to his various and extensive health conditions. So work and actually going to uni will be off the table and transferred back to the online format. 
          
          If you have any questions about any current or drafted stories/pairings, feel free to ask! 
          
          Hope your all doing well and stay safe out there x

jaegerrsupremacy

CAN’T WAIT FOR YOU TO CONT GUARDIAN OF HUMANITY
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jsnidnejfien

@HaLoFo I'M SO EXCITED FOR THE GUARDIAN OF HUMANITY
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newlyweebs

@HaLoFo THE BATTLE ANGLE was sooooo gooooddd!! I really love it i hope you have more of aot fanfic!
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