Iwipemyasswithredflags

This right here. This is the problem.
          
          
          https://www.pajiba.com/book_reviews/the-booktok-teenage-biker-dark-romance-controversy-explained.php

My rants are not intended to belittle or degrade others. This is my opinion based on my own experience and yes, psychology. 
          Quoting something Levi says in The Tracks:
          “I’m used to it. Tattoos. Poor side of town. White male statistics. I’m channeling Isabel a bit here. She should have gone to college. Not following me into poverty. It is what it is. People take a look at me and they see what they see. I MUST be a criminal. I must be the type to smack a woman around. Just because my life is what it is, I MUST have some kind of trauma that leads me to treat people poorly because I’m CERTAINLY NOT refined enough to know how to treat people.
          
          This is unfortunately what causes girls to try and force him into the toxic "tragic" man category. "He was a criminal! Surely that means he's do all these other things!"
          "His moral compass! I only want to see that from the angle that fits my narrative!"
          "He needs to be toxic, or my interest in him isn't justified!"
          "But trauma!"
          No. No, and no.
          I've spoken about how trauma victims statistically seek the trauma not express it. (Abused seeks an abuser unconsciously due to the patterns they've been conditioned to accept. They feel safe in their trauma)
          When the victimizer becomes the end game for the protagonist in a "romance" story, that just says one thing: you should accept the abuse, because if you are devoted, make excuses for your partner and stay true to the emotional/physical/psychologically traumatic behavior your abuser throws at you, they will eventually change for you. Take the blame for his (or her) bullshit. Smile through the tears. Wear that bruise like a badge of honor. This is, and will always be utter horseshit. Dark romance can be very realistic in its portrayal of relationships, but it never is realistic about the outcome.
          Be safe, my lovelies. If you are being abused, seek safety and help. Don't become a statistic. You deserve better.
          Please be respectful in comments, or use the DM's as usual.
          Love, Ghost

Love you, beautiful ❤️

Ay, how’s it going? I’m not dead :)

I must confess that I have a disorder called selective toxic bad boy syndrome. No, that's not a real disorder. I just made that up. But it's valid. For me, it all depends on if it's warranted. Does this character deserve to be presented as toxic or not.
          Levi, doesn't I'm sorry, ladies, I stand by this. You do you. Write what you're gonna write? But I just can't take a good character, turn him into something bad, just so I can clap my hands and say, "Yay, I fixed him."
          If that's your thing, there are some really good stories out there. Go for it, but don't ever forget what's actually canon about the character.
          Now, Geto, oh shi. There is a toxic bad boy that I can stand behind.
          Levi gets portrayed as bad for some reason because girls want to fantasize about the fact that just cause he grew up a thug, he still is a thug. And he needs them to fix him so desperately. He never was. Even when he was a thug. At least how he's presented by the author. As presented by the author. Now, when Bad Boy comes out, if Isayama decides to toss him outside the box a little bit. I'm not gonna lie that will make me a little sick to my stomach. But I will support it. Of course I will because I have respect for the original author and his vision. I honestly think that levi wouldn't be anymore than a pink flag at best. This character was stated as always wanting nothing more than a life of dignity for him and his friends. That sure as hell doesn't sound like a bad man. Paint it however you want.
          

I'm glad I had viewed Levi’s character as a psychological project first and gained adoration for the character later. 
          I feel like that helped me write him without getting all wild in my opinions. Helped me stay respectful to Isayama and what is actually presented. 

Disclaimer: my rants are not intended to target or belittle. They are my own personal reflections, gained by too much experience and such. If you feel seen, know it isn't my intention to shame. If you choose to read my rants, remember you chose to continue. No one is forcing you to be here.
          
          Too many people over-interpret what it means to validate someone's (or their own) experience to the point where they think that their experience is perfectly okay. Acceptable. Normalized.
          This is more damaging than anything else.
          More damaging than any red flag story.
          More damaging than any toxic red flag character.
          
          Growth is scary. It means we have to accept that our experience may not be correct. Unhealthy. That we may be encouraging others to harm by glorifying said experience.
          Rant over.
          Love, Obsi

Fun tip: instead of being slimy and calling girls "babe", try:
          
          "My enchanting, evil, Princess of Darkness"
          
          Sounds way more badass than talking to your fellow females (or person of interest) like a construction worker. 

Women get more beautiful as they grow older. Not less. Female youth is only prized in modern culture because it doesn't represent as much of a threat spiritually to anyone who is frightened of divine feminine power.
          
          As women grow and mature, they call in stronger forces of sacred feminine wisdom. They vibrate with the creative power of their stories.
          
          They are more of a force to be reckoned with.
          They see more, know more, feel more. They put up with a lot less bullsh*t.
          
          When women are trained into thinking there is something fundamentally wrong with getting older, and are coerced into spending money, energy and power investing in 'slowing the signs of ageing', an enormous vault of divine love is lost.
          
          Just think what would happen if all the women in the world started loving themselves even more with every year that passed.
          
          Perhaps a total revolution would occur.
          
          ~Yogesh Kumar

Fake can be smelled a mile away. Don't ever assume me talking to you means I'm fooled. Stop wasting time working for someone else's toxicity. It compounds your own. Learned the hard way and so should you.