Okay, most self-harmers blame "A" ("A" is the bully, parent, ex, etc) but you can't, they didn't do it, you did, they didn't put that blade on your skin and cause a scar, you did, you put that scare there, not them, you made that decision, you could have said no and binned the blade, but you didn't, you had a choice, yes the words and "jokes" and abuse and whatever else hurts, but you can make it all stop an easier way, tell someone, self-harming is not the answer, if your self-harming/suicidal, you need to get help, your a danger to yourself and others around you, I am not hating, I lost an uncle to suicide and some of my friends self-harm, I'm saying save yourself before its too late, you can do it.
You are not strong enough to kill yourself but weak enough to listen to them.
You don't need a blade, you need hobbies and friends.
Getting high or drinking doesn't get rid of your problems, you need to face them.
I promise you can so this.
I promise life gets better.
I promise you can push through.
I promise if you fall I will catch you and push you back up.
You can do this believe in yourself.
Before you love anyone, learn to love yourself.