The "Quote" book for every girl

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Some common myths that we come across everyday, which often seems right. But think over them twice if they really do make sense....

1. You are either born with it or without. You either have self-confidence or you don't.
False. Self-confidence is like a skill. You can develop it and conquer it. You just need to do the work.

2. Smart, talented, skillful, handsome or successful people are confident.
False. Self-confidence is not based on status, gifts or looks.

3. People who perform well are highly self-confident.
False. There are many people who do not relate their performance or behavior to their worth.

4. Comparing ourselves to others and seeing “how much more” we are, increases our self-confidence.
False. Actually, comparing ourselves to others, regardless of how many things we have or are, feeds our fears and insecurities, all the parts of ourself that we feel as weaknesses.

5. Self-confidence is an essential ingredient to success.
False. Yeah, right; all successful people are full of self-confident. Many times, it can be quite the opposite. People who lack confidence and have a low sense of self-worth may diligently pursue success to prove their worth to themselves.

6. People with high self-confidence are arrogant.
False. The truth is that many people who suffer from arrogance are trying to cover their insecurities.

7. We will gain confidence once we have achieved x.
False. We dare do x exactly because we feel confident doing it.

8. Receiving acknowledgement increases someone's confidence.
False. Partly. Only when a person is able to acknowledge his/her own achievements, actions, talents, skills, etc, will his/her self-confidence consistently increase.

9. Only self-confident people take risks.
False. Not necessarily. If you are self-confident, that might not feel like such a risk, right? Risk takers are disengaged from the outcome of the action taken. They may lack self-confidence but they have a strong commitment to the purpose of their risk.

10. Only a big accomplishment can restore our self-confidence.
False. Small changes, tiny steps, can make a big difference.

11. A low profile person is someone with low self-confidence.
False. There may be cases where a low profile person also has low self-confidence, but this is definitely not a rule. A low profile person may well be a very confident introvert.