why it's impossible to have a conversation with NPD

Arguing with impossible

Let me first start off by saying not everyone who has toxic / Narcissist traits is a narcissist because we all have Narcissist traits in us so it can be hard to see who is the real Narcissist vs Narcissist traits ! Anyways, my Narcissist trait is needing the last word in an argument. And I'm still trying to figure out how to get rid of it ! Arguing with Narcissist people is a huge waste of time because they can't hear or see you but only see an extension of themselves ! What I'm talking about is we all have our own ideas , opinions and thoughts in life we may not agree with that other person and that is okay but with a narcissist they are so nice until you disagree with them ! Like for eg : you learned that it is better to use a fake apology to keep the peace because they will be sure to pin point your mistakes without acknowledging their own ! The relationship , marriage and Friendship or whatever you are in will be one sided  because they need your reaction to the abuse ! They will never be accountable for anything ! If you call out a narcissist female or male they will not stop being a narcissist simply because you placed a mirror in their face and want them to self reflect instead it's better to write down your feelings because. A narcissist person lacks EMPATHY and they will be sure to gaslight or blameshift if you call them out on their toxic behaviour ! It is better not to tell them anything about yourself because they are very unsupportive people and if you do they will disguise their supportive behaviour as help ! Narcissists imagine you disrespecting them when you are just trying to have a conversation this is because they live in a hyper vigilant state of fear worried about people who may have seen through their fake personality because they are so worried about their image vs how they make the other person feel ! They are good in public and terrible behind closed doors ! They know boundaries and they don't care ! I highly suggest not to call them out because if you do it will be your fault ! They are not very good at taking accountability for their actions so they prefer to gaslight you because the truth doesn't make them look good ! A narcissists worst fear is being exposed ! I would also like to add why it's impossible to call out a narcissist because you're not allowed to exist in a certain way ! The past was 5 mins ago you should have told them right here and right now but how do you do that when they are interrupting and talking over top of you and they aren't interested in hearing you because conversations will be about them  !