Become The Femme Fatale

Charisma mistakes to avoid

- Reading negative intent in an ambiguous situation.

- Sarcasm requires a "tell".

- You should not jump on every opportunity to call praise or attention to yourself.

- You should not try to win each moment of banter.

- Know how to handle and accept a compliment.

- Handling conflict improperly.

- Not following obvious social rules consistently. Introduce yourself with some form of physical touch. Call out when you are being awkward so that you cut the awkward tension.

- Acting flustered or uncomfortable when things get awkward.

- Answering with one word responses. Add a sentence to your one word answer.

- Not matching your expressions with your words.

- Getting caught in an awkward silence. Introduce a hard pivot: do or say something even more awkward than the situation itself.

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Turn awkwardness into confidence.

Tips and tricks on how to make a situation less awkward:

- You can radiate positivity, even when you feel nervous.

- Appear unphased by smiling through a tease.

- Do not assume negative intent in ambiguous situations.

- Call out the awkwardness (ex: falling off a chair and saying, "This is embarrassing. How am I going to recover from this?").

- Pass the conversational spotlight to the other person.

- Share your higher purpose.

- If this does not go well, go on with the rest of your life (ex: the reframe rule).