Flirting 101

Chapter 7

6 dymamite tips

1. Be Yourself
Okay, so what do people really mean when they say this?
What they mean is: Don’t be fake.
Don’t try to be someone you’re not.
Don’t be pretentious and try to show off.
What you should do instead is stick with your actual sense of humor,
talk about your actual interests, and say things you actually mean.
If you think a girl is pretty – maybe you think she has great eyes,
a great smile, a nice butt, whatever – there’s no reason you can’t
tell her that.
But don’t be cheesy or cocky about it.
Be sincere, smile and look in her eyes, and remember that the surest
way to master how to flirt with girls is to show them who you really 
are.

2. Body Language
Showing a girl that you like her and getting her interested in you is
as simple as being casual and confident.
Even if you stand straight and tall usually, find a way to lean against
a wall or a chair.
Turn your body toward her, cross your arms casually, or relax your 
shoulders and elbows if you put them in your pockets.
Smile and make eye contact, but don’t stare or grin like a maniac.
Be friendly.
Be interested in what she says, and glance down at the floor occasionally 
so you can lift your eyes back up to her face.
It’ll give you a chance to look over her body casually too – which is a 
subconscious signal that you’re ready to take your contact to the next level.

3. How To Flirt With Girls – Language
So what do you say to flirt with a girl?
Be sincere.
You can compliment her but don’t go overboard or deliver something obvious – like
from a movie or a pickup line.
Be clever and think up your own interesting things to say. Don’t curse around 
her until you know if she’s comfortable with it, and don’t use vulgar humor
first either.
Knowing how to flirt with girls means that you’ve paid attention to the signals 
they’re sending out, and playing off their lead.
Follow topics of conversation that she brings up – and ask her about her.
Once you have a little idea of her sense of humor, you can start to banter with
her, or pick on her a little.
Not the way you’d rip on a bro (*never* say a word about her weight! You’ll probably
instantly turn her off) but the way you might pick on a sister or a female cousin.
Don’t be mean, just joke with her and let her joke with you.
Avoid using pet names or nicknames too quickly as that might put her off, but if
she calls you “dear” or “sweetie” or something along those lines first, it’s a go-ahead to try and respond in kind.

4. How To Flirt With Girls – Taking It To The Next Level
So now you’ve sent out some signals and she’s sent out some.
Eyes and words have connected and bantered and your physical bodies have gotten closer.
You should try a subtle move to break the “touch barrier.”
One of the best ways how to flirt with girls is to let them know you want to be intimate,
which means being close and into her.
Once she knows this about you – even subconsciously – and if she’s into you, she’ll 
totally be willing to take flirting to the next level.
Touching her should be casual. Find an excuse to brush up against her, touch her arm when
she makes you laugh, or get close without actually touching.
For example, lean in when she’s close and smell her air – don’t be loud or noticeable 
– and when you pull back just smile and tell her how good it smells.
If you can, say what it smells like (flowers, rain, fruit, etc).

5. How To Flirt With Girls – Sexual Flirting
It’s tough to know when it’s okay to make sexual comments when you’re flirting with a girl.
You want to let her know you’re interested without making her think you’re a sleaze.
If she’s turned off by you all your flirting will get you nowhere. A great way to flirt 
without coming on too strong is to make a “double-entendre.” (French for “double meaning”).
For example, if this paragraph would have started “It’s hard to know…” you might have had the
impulse to laugh at the word “hard” (It’s okay, us too).
So try to work those kinds of double-meanings into the things you say, and you’ll subtly be 
telling a girl that you’re interested in getting past flirting, an expert move in how to 
flirt with girls.

6. How To Flirt With Girls – Successful Flirting
Some girls you may be flirting with just to practice flirting, or to see whether or not
they flirt back.
Because of course, if they do, they’re interested.
But other girls you may be flirting with because you’re definitely interested in taking it 
further with her. All successful flirting can lead to a first kiss, so if you’ve been flirting 
back and forth for awhile she is expecting that’s where it is going.
In all likeliness, if she’s been flirting back she wants to take it further and may have even
been dropping hints in her flirting with you.
Don’t under-count how important that is!
One of the best things resulting from knowing how to flirt with girls successfully, is being 
able to see if there’s chemistry beyond the flirting. That’s a sure-fire way how to get a girlfriend.