Like I said in the last chappie, I'mma do the same thing I did with their MBTI personality types but using their (unconfirmed) Enneagram types to see if it sounds the same. I'll do it for me too cuz this me book. :)
Let's just jump right in.
Jimin (Type 1) - THE SINNING SAINT
As a One, you see the world as always needing to be improved. Rather than relax into simply being, you believe it's your moral mission to make the world a better place. This is hard when most people neither share your desire for perfectionism, or the enthusiasm for the task. Like the North star you want to shine the way to a better love life, so others can learn and be uplifted from your example, but it frustratingly doesn't always get the desired result.
The need for things to be "just so," in order to create the perfect conditions for sex, may mean that rather than looking for what is good, you focus on what you perceive to be problematic. The bed isn't made, the picture is skew, your partner left their undies on the floor... any number of possible "incorrect" issues that take you out of your body and into a judgemental frame of mind. Maybe you rate your performance badly: "Am I a good enough lover?" Perhaps you question your lover's performance? "Really, they can't seem to get this right."
Letting go of the need to judge and becoming all-embracing and impartial is the road to healing the division within you. All is One, when you can release the desire to make sex, yourself or your partner either right or wrong. Sex is an expression of your love which shows up differently sometimes. And that's okay.
(Oh God. Sounds stressful.)
Type 1: Sex occurs on Mondays, Thursdays and Saturdays between 10:15 and 10:27 pm. Scented candles light the room and rose petals make a path to the bed. It's effective for making you forget you're doing a sinful deed.
1's will interrogate you about if you came or not in an attempt to be perfect
1's will take you
Jin (Type 2) - THE SEXY SEDUCER
You are in love with love. You desire to be in a loving relationship, is your greatest desire, but you question whether you're worthy of being loved. The Enneagram in relation to sex shows how you solve the problem. Just seduce your intended with acts of kindness and love, making them the focus and yourself worthy of being loved. You work really hard at doing things your lover will enjoy, whilst avoiding admitting your own needs. As your focus is on leading the way to your partner's magical orgasm, you may forget your own needs entirely in this pursuit. But, like bank accounts, relationships rely on receiving and depositing. When your partner is ranking up all the receiving, it becomes unsustainable and your emotional bank balance bereft.
Integrated Twos learn to let go of the control that comes with giving, and surrender to accepting love from a partner. Sex becomes about self-nurturing as well as nurturing a partner's needs. First step though is admitting to having needs, rather than pridefully believing you're above having them. Then sex can be truly about passionate giving and receiving with no hidden expectations.
(Sounds like Jin. UwU)
Type 2: (Jin): You've had such a rough day. Let me make it all better for you.
(Lover): You've had a rough day too, what about yourself?
(Jin): Don't worry about me. As long as you're satisfied, I'm satisfied.
(Lover): [Thinking to their self]. I need to look like I'm enjoying this so they're happy. Shit! Now the pressure's on!
2's will want to help you get there
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