Its not necessary to call a person evil , toxic, worst or ill mannered if you are not with them anymore. Two people can separate even when both of them are equally right in their own way. We often try to pacify the broken hearts of people by accusing and devaluing the person who directly or indirectly is the cause of their pain. Like, just call them unfaithful, or undeserving or degrade their level of religiousness and piety. Ultimately, a strong effort to make the broken people feel good and a little boastful about themselves. To make them feel a little proud of their softness or kind ,loving nature.
No ! Stop that. Its not like this always. People leave us, or we leave people even when we know everything about each other is perfectly alright. Even when we know that they are not the ones hurting us, or they were bad as a companion.
Its a sin to malign someone without knowing their side of story just in order to justify the separation or just to console your grief.
You cannot just make them look like hypocrites or minidajjals or firawns , giving fatwas over there lies and fake promises. We know nothing ! Literally nothing !
And this way to placate a person having hard time is not fair, because we need to cleanse the heart from every single ill feelings related to a person, so that they can accept the reality without blaming anyone ! So that they have nothing to think about. So that they can move on by focusing on their own reformation and not counting faults and pointing fingers for their heartbreak at other people. The pains, the failed friendships or relationships are meant to be a lesson for us. To seek Allah and ourself in that process. Not to indulge in another sin by backbiting, and having bad suspicions for another believer. Because at the end of the day, we were equally responsible for whatever happened, right ? We are not a 5 year old child who prompted immediately because our parents or siblings encouraged us to read a poem. We having a conscious mind, get trapped in the problems , we commit mistakes sometimes alone or sometimes along with someone else. Without thinking about the consequences. Okay, that can be really unexpected, unintentional or devastating too. But remember. We alone are to be blamed until we realise that it was qadr. And once you realise it. Take the lesson and let it go. Blame no one. Don't waste your time thinking how good you were and how bad was done to you. Just LET IT GO !! And moving on is not always about "you were worthless and hope you regret loosing me" Sometimes moving on is all about, "I'm happy to see you smile and laugh about the things you love , even if its not with me" 🖤
Allah is Al Khabeer. He knows and that's enough 💕
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