It's always:
"Leave them, they're not good for you."
"You don't need them."
"Know your worth."
When it comes to romantic relationships and friendships.
But it's never:
"They did for you what they could, but you don't owe them anything."
"You're allowed to leave."
"Not talking to them for your own self isn't selfish."
When it comes to your family.
No, instead it's:
"But he's your father."
"She'll always be your mother."
"You can't just make them nor your siblings."
But what if they hurt me just as much as her boyfriend did while they were together?
What if they bullied me just like they did to him?
What if they were just as bad as that girl who betrayed her best friend?
What if they were worse?
What if they were the ones who decided to cut contact first?
What if they were the ones that chose to have nothing to do with me, no matter how hard I tried?
What then?
They'll always be my family, I can't change that.
But they won't be My Family.
If family is who you chose, then I have a choice, right?
They might be my blood, but they won't be part of my heart.
Part of my soul.
Part of my life, at least not forever.
I may forgive them, but that doesn't mean I'll go back.
They made their choices, and I made mine.
If you relate to this, and have had some of these things told to you, let your hear it from me:
If you decide to create a boundary, or cut someone out from you life completely for you own well being, you are not being selfish.
You are not overreacting.
You do not owe them anything.
You do not need to justify yourself, you are your own person and you are allowed to be happy.
And if someone is preventing you from being so, or holding you back in some way, yes.
You are allowed to do something about it.
~Sage
