My Peripheral View

My Peripheral View Part 5

New Chapter - See You Through

University Convention for Behavioral Science Masters

Nellie's Speech

" Once, I've read a book about different kinds of phobia. I've read about the fear of speech in public, Glossophobia. There was a story about a high school boy who did a great job with his first speech when he was thinking how to get rid of it the whole time.

It was at his brother's funeral that he made a wonderful tribute speech for him being such a supportive brother. His brother, whom he used to be compared with, was a very talented speaker. Unlike his brother he's not confident enough to stand up and deliver a well-spoken piece. In the end, he made everyone listen and heartfelt were the words spoken at his brother's funeral. He made a highlight on how his brother encourage him and made him believe in himself first so everyone will believe as he speak. Part of his farewell speech says " You're right my dear brother. I have to believe in myself first or people won't believe me at all"

Overcoming fear is not an easy thing, it's an inner battle you have to fight fiercely and win. Who would have thought, I'm standing here next to all of you? I used to struggle in public speaking, too. I was in third grade when I missed the lines of the poem in front of a big crowd. Since then, I never thought I could ever stand in a stage again. Until I fight the inner battle of fear and combat my own prejudices. I had to win insecurities and lack of self esteem.

I had to win myself first to conquer others. How can I see others at their best when I don't know how to see it in myself? So, I decided one day to stand up and speak in purpose. I found the very purpose of conquering my own fear by letting myself win first. Surely, I win the inner battle I was fighting since I was a third grade.

Now, I'm standing here in front of you, Believing in my own capabilities and ideas. Telling you all to fight the inner battle and see yourself win..."

Everyone at the University Media Center rise to give her a round of applause. A well-meaning thought from a former timid girl, Nellie has turned into a sociable, friendly and talented lady. She can express herself so well that she made a breakthrough in her chosen profession.

She knows how to handle things carefully in her life. An orphan who missed a lot of opportunity but had to set goals for herself before her fears hold her back. It has been a long road to success but she was able to pave the way to her achievements.

Now that she found herself hooked up with a man who's trying to recover from a tragic event. How can she be of any help? It's not easy to heal a painful past. Will she be able to make him reconcile to himself?

How can two people with completely different personality jive perfectly? Who's going to make the adjustments? I guess, when you found someone you love, you learn to speak the language that you haven't spoken in your life.

Understanding makes it more painful when you don't seem to know how and why do you need to understand such thing. When you get completely tired of making yourself think, it's the best thing to do. How can you indulge in such a situation where everything seems tied up in the past? Is time to move on or make the worst mistake of losing someone you love because you're still hanging out in the past?

Nellie knows well how to handle things in her life. When it comes to Nelson, who would be there to let him conquer his own fear, the guilt feeling taunting him for years?

They found each other's arms embracing one another's strength and challenges. How to be a perfect fit? Beyond stardom and fame, there's a simple life waiting for two people who had a great appreciation with simple little things. It's the secret of a long lasting relationship - appreciating beauty beyond undesirable experiences. Understand what you can fill in if there's something lacking. It's how Nel and Nellie conquered the way.

I'll share some of their conversations about their life together. Hopefully, we can learn something on how to deal with real situations and realizations.

When in relationship, how to outscore hindrances that could mean make or break? Completely opposite personality, time management, communication, trust, distance,loyalty, dependence versus independence and individuality. What else could a relationship win over?

Let's find out how Nel and Nellie paved the way to a long lasting relationship. Under the shadow of painful memories that breaks them into two, love brings them closer as one.

Take a sweet peek, next week's post! Surely everyone can relate to the next scenarios.

Have a great weekend folks! Stay tuned as I make you cry and smile.