🤍 Little space 🤍 (an agere book)

🖤 Dating as a Regressor 🖤

This is something I feel like isn't bought up enough, or not in the ways it really should be.

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Dating as a regressor can be really difficult for lots of reasons. Of course, the pros outweigh the cons for a lot of people but it can be scary.

For example, coming out as a regressor is hard enough. Ideally, you want to tell someone about being small as soon as you start dating or maybe even before. But that alone is hard. You never know wether someone's going to accept it or not. Of course there is nothing wrong with regression and every little is valid, but some people just don't understand it and some people just don't want to accept it into their lives. Which, I know from experience, can be a make or break thing in a relationship. As sad as that is.

Then there is actually regressing, some littles are happy regressing by themselves and do, but some babies need or want their partners to help them out with things or care for them, especially for the younger kiddos, That's why littles have Mommies and Daddies. But of course, it's hard to get comfortable enough with somebody to regress around them. When you're small, you get extremely vulnerable and there really isn't much to hide behind. Sometimes the idea of somebody seeing you regressed is scary enough. Especially for people that tend to be shy and awkward big, these are huge things that are generally not considered until you get there. I wish I had tips for the this, but I'm going through the same thoughts :/

I've been with my boyfriend for almost five months but we've know each other for about two years. We both regress and he knows about my regression, but I've never regressed in front of him because I've never been a person to show emotion or vulnerability while I'm big so it just terries me :( if anyone had any thought on this or ways to get past it, please let me know <3

Another thing is not understanding completely, everybody regresses differently and even if your partner/ cg does all the research in the world, they'll never know completely how to care for you. The main thing is communication, agere can be a tricky thing to talk about but it's really important that they fully understand everything about you and your small side so they know how to best keep you happy and safe. If you aren't sure what to say, I think some main points to bring up are,

🖤 that it's not a k*nk (common mistake)
🤍 little age
🖤 why you regress
🤍 wether it's voluntary or involuntary (or both)
🖤 how much care you'll need from them
🤍 boundaries (some littles like physical affection, some don't)
🖤 regressing in public/ with other people (some people are comfy with that and some aren't)

Other cute things to bring up, though not essential are,

🤍 favourite activities, snacks and movies
🖤 favourite toys or stuffies
🤍 clothing preferences
🖤 wether you like bottles and pacis or sippy cups and bigger kid things <3
🤍 pet names :3 (just a cute thing to talk about)

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I do hope this helps a few people, it can be a scary subject and a lot of people don't know where to start with discussing it <3 of course, you can comment your opinions or ask me any questions about any small subject :) also any other things you'd like me to talk about