The Fitnah of Islamic Stories

3. Maiden Names

YOU CAN READ ON IF YOU WISH, BUT JUST KNOW THAT THIS CHAPTER IS CURRENTLY BEING WRITTEN AGAIN WITH MORE RELIABLE SOURCES (So don't form an opinion from IslamQA)

UPDATE 7/01/16 - THE FOLLOWING IS NOT MY VIEW! I'M STILL RESEARCHING! DON'T BE SO QUICK TO BLAME ME FOR SPREADING SIN WHEN I TOLD YOU NOT TO FORM AN OPINION FROM ISLAMQA!

Yusuf Amar.

That's his name.

The name of my fiancee.

The name of the one who I will spend the rest of my life with.

The name of the man whose name I will take, whose children I will bear.

His kindness has won me over and his Deen has kept me hooked.

Tomorrow, after the Nikkah my name will have changed.

Mrs. Amar.

I smiled in delight to my new name.

Nah.

The following has been extracted from IslamQA - Fatwa 6241 and 114624

Originally, the woman is So and so the Daughter of So and so, not So and so the wife of So and so! Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

"Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allaah..." [al-Ahzaab 33:5].

As it is in this world, so it will also be in the Hereafter, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

"On the Day of Resurrection, each betrayer will have a banner raised beside him, and it will be said, this is the betrayer of So and so the son of So and so." (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5709, and Muslim, 3265).

There is no blood tie between the husband and wife, so how can she take his surname as if she is part of the same lineage? Moreover, she may get divorced, or her husband may die, and she may marry another man. Will she keep changing her surname every time she marries another man? Furthermore, there are rulings attached to her being named after her father, which have to do with inheritance, spending and who is a mahram, etc. Taking her husband's surname overlooks all that. The husband is named after his own father, and what does she have to do with the lineage of her husband's father? This goes against common sense and true facts. The husband has nothing that makes him better than his wife so that she should take his surname, whilst he takes his father's name.

Hence everyone who has gone against this and taken her husband's name should put matters right. We ask Allaah to put all the affairs of the Muslims right.

What if you are being forced or pressurized - 114624

It is not permissible for a woman to take her husband's name or his family name because that is attributing oneself to someone other than one's father, and imitating the kuffaar from whom this custom was adopted.

Al-Bukhaari (3508) and Muslim (61) narrated from Abu Dharr (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: "Any man who knowingly attributes himself to someone other than his father is guilty of kufr. Whoever claims to belong to a people when he has nothing to do with them, let him take his place in Hell."

"when he has nothing to do with them" means, when he has no lineage among them, as is highlighted in some reports.

Based on that, the husband has no right to force his wife to do that, and if he forces her to do it she should not obey him, because it is obedience to a created being which involves disobedience to the Creator. So she should persist in her refusal and explain to him that it is haraam, and look for Islamically acceptable means of establishing her rights from a legal point of view.

And Allahu Alam (Allah knows best)

UPDATE 15/01/16 - 2:00AM

I am going to say this again, because so many people didn't listen to me the first time I said it.

TIS NOT MY VIEW! (I repeat, the views expressed by IslamQA are NOT my views.)

I'm researching the matter in more detail with more perspectives.

I said not to form an opinion from IslamQA, yet people still blamed me for spreading what is incorrect.
I'm not spreading anything!

It's like reading the bible.

I don't believe it. But I read it. And I read it to inform myself.

Similarly I read different viewpoints to INFORM!

Doesn't mean I believe it. And doesn't mean you should either.

And what makes me angry is that not only did I have to explain myself in the comments multiple times, but I had to put 'disclaimers' before AND after the IslamQA excerpt.

Albeit,

I'm not telling you to stay quite and not tell me when something concerns you.

In fact, it was because someone wanted to help did I realise that IslamQA was not a reliable source (See Chapter 5 for details)

Challenging me shows that you care, that you don't want me to spread the wrong thing and I completely get it.

But when I was receiving the same thing over and over again, despite me writing not to form an opinion over IslamQA, it did get to me. :(

BUT

IMA BE HAPPY NOW

RANT OVER

TAA TAA

ALLAH HAFIZ

ASSALAMUALAIKUM :)