Ask Alex 2 ~A Wattpad Advice Column~

Getting over someone you shouldn't like

Dear Alex ,

I looked through as much wattpad updates I could but none seemed like my issue. You see, theres a guy that I have feelings for. When I met him I didn't think of him in that way. I thought he was cute, yes but he just wasn't my cup of tea. I got to know him the more he came around. I guess you could say a crush developed. I figured it was just a stage I was going through and it would pass. I was completely wrong. My feelings for him are growing by the day. I try to distance myself from him but it's hard when I'm invited to hang with him and some other people all the time. (including my big brother) Before you say, well why distance yourself when you don't know if the feelings are mutual? That's the problem. I don't want to know if the feelings are mutual. The thing is, he's my mothers boyfriends nephew. I know, I know! It's bad. I try to not talk to him as much and I always wear sweats, a T, and some sneakers bc I'm a tomboy so I fight the urges to want to look good for him. Him, his brother, his brothers' gf, and some other people you probably don't care to know are coming over this weekend to chill, smoke, and allat. There's also a party being thrown on the 1st at his brothers college, and my birthday is on the 12 and I was gonna invite him and everyone else. My question is how the hell do I get over this guy? The way I feel about him is getting stressful. 

P.S I am so sorry for my long paragraph. Thanks in advance.

                  Much love ,

                             Paige

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Dear Paige, 

Wow o.o Can I just say while reading this I had the biggest smile on my face and got butterflies in my tummy cuz I was thinking about this one guy I have a crush on and couldn't stop thinking about him o.o Okay you didn't need to know that XD But any who okay so he's your mothers boyfriend's nephew... that's not really good and I get the whole you want to get over him and stuff.. well the way I get over really strong feelings for someone is to tell yourself you don't like them. Convince yourself that it's wrong and listen to your gut about this situation. Yes yes we can't help who we like but if you can see the feelings you have aren't really the feelings for liking someone and just as a friend like then you will be okay unless well he likes you back and all this is going to be weird since he's your mothers boyfriends nephew o,o Which I don't know how that works out but yeah. I'd probably just try to act normal, don't think about him too much and start checking out other guys and bringing up other guys into your life that you think is cute and could potentially like you know? It helps a little and it will give you that bulge to getting over this guy. Though I must say it isn't easy because it does take time and you will be frustrated with your feelings. I've been there but if you keep telling yourself he doesn't like you then your feelings will die down and if it doesn't then  you might as well say screw the chemicals in your brain XD

Alex