Legacy of Filipino Women (V): Advice to the Unmarried Filipino Lonely Hearts

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The fifth part of the letter, "To the (Young) Women of Malolos."

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The topic regarding romance and love is typical suicidal. Much approach to this is a part of human life attached to his/her freedom to love; love of tender, love of cherish, and love of fulfillment from lonely heart. Rizal said, "Woman is a partner of man's heart." Men should be an open book with every guideline and moral associated a good story behind his exploits of life and suffering.

Men should choose sincerely, not her only physical beauty, but her outlast beauty of soul of which the man inspires his heart. "If she is a young woman, let the young man love her not only for her beauty or the sweetness of her disposition but also for the firmness of character, her lofty ideas that invigorate and encourage the weak and timorous man or arouse brilliant ideas," Rizal added.

"That she may be a young woman of whom the country can be proud of, a young woman who inspires respect." This would be a song of every Filipina who loves herself before engaging seriously to someone man's strong heart that respects her. But now, you can see the difference where true men endangered to be lost in generations because of the stupid low valued women doing worst scenario being inloved to a wrong man and vice-versa.

"A people that respect woman, like Filipino people, must know the truth of the situation in order to be to do what is expected of it. It seems an established fact that when a young man falls in love, he throws everything to the dogs - knowledge, honor, and money, as of a girl could not do anything but sow misfortune."

On the other hand, Rizal adviced also the women not to surrender their womanhood to a weak and timid heart whereas he should consider himself a good book to every true heart. According to him, there are three things that a young woman must look for a man she is going to marry:

• a noble and honored name (part of the way of growing of a man)
• a manly heart (sincere and a gentle heart); and
high spirit

"The bravest youth becomes a coward when he married and the born coward becomes shameless, as if he had been waiting to get married in order to show his cowardice... Why does the girl not require of her lover a nobled and honored name, a manly heart offering her protection to her weakness, and a high spirit incapable of being satisfied with engendering slaves?" Rizal proclaimed.

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