"You know if i didn't know any better what the word of God meant when it says in ephesians 4:27 'Neither give place to the devil' i would have believed that my mother rejected me at birth" says Heaven after gathering herself together from memories of almost all alterations with her mum.
"Impossible! It takes a mother who lacks understanding to reject a child at birth. Did you you force your way into her womb or did you beg to be created. Moreover who will reject a kind hearted soul like you?" Asks Echeta smiling as he gives his bride a compliment
"Thanks for the compliment dear but seriously speaking, it will amaze you what goes through the mind of some women when they hold their children the first time after birth. Especially if they are unbelievers at the time some still ignoring those thoughts even after being bornagain, it can still have a hold on them if care is not taken.
Why is this child so ugly? why is he so dark? why is he bow legged? Why is she crippled? Why this? Why that? How else would you explain someone easily dumping an offspring or a bit grown child that grew in her womb to the streets, orphanages or at random people's door steps even with mean relatives, putting these children at risk if they do not lack understanding. I mean for some i know it's due to harship, fear of parents or public criticisms and so on but i tell you for some it's for their ego, mindset, shame or selfishness on outlooks they expected to birth in their children. They desire to be the ones who gets to decide on their children's physics and outlooks. Do some even know that some decisions they make in life affects the aftermath of their children's being and God cannot be blamed. Take for instance many couples before marriage wouldn't go for some premarital check ups then an AS meets and falls in love with another AS and boom! They birth an SS." Expresses Heaven in anger.
"Very true! A colleague i knew way back babe came into office one day and in anger was picking offense at almost every work layed out for the day. I got umcomfortable at some point and pissed i said to him 'Do you have a problem with being at work today?' He then sighed and was telling me after calming down that in wanting to take his relationship to a next level he proposed to his lady friend. Okay so why is your mood today not matching up with this great news you're giving me i thought to myself. As if he heard me thinking aloud he said 'They went for a check up just to be sure before going any further with wedding plans they found out they are both AS.' Woah i shouted and after some mintues of quietness he said they have made up their mind to carry on with the wedding and worse of it all they also decided to hide this from close relatives. Straight up i told him he was making a mistake. 'But we love each other he expressed' Really! I shouted back at him this is not only stupidity but selfishness. I queried if they knew the implications of what they wanted to do. I further explained that they just want to punish the children they will birth together.
Long story short sweetness they went on with the marriage. The last i heard of them they have lost two kids to AS but they keep trying because medical science promises them that one child at least will be free from it." Says Cheta very sad.
"Shame! Because their lives is not the one directly on line abi? So those ones are like sheep led to be slaughtered na waoh" (a suprised way of saying wonders shall never end in pidgin) says angry Heaven
"I am amazed at how selfish people can be in our world today. When you're dad told me some things he went through in life yesterday i had little wonder for how the slave trade played out in Africa. I mean you see black skin doing the unthinkable to their fellow black you just wonder, black selling black to the slave masters!" Expresses Cheta shaking his head.
"My point exactly! What makes a mother who is of fair skin look at her Child and says 'Tufia!'(a manner of expressing disgust over what is forbidden or an eye soar in igbo language) 'To think that you were dark like charcoal when i birthed you', you should have heard Echeta how i was described by my mother at birth and of course she didn't spare me either of other people's thoughts or opinions of how i looked when i was born. It reset alot of things in me that day. I mean the disgust she displayed that day while describing it all left a picture i will never forget and i am a very sensitive person." Says Heaven
"Was that necessary i mean what even led both of you to the altercation, that made her say such?" Asks Echeta
"You know me and the cleanliness syndrome i have been battling ever since i got to the age of knowing good and bad, it had and still has this way of getting on the nerves of my family and friends." Explains Heaven
"Sure even me some times even though am trying hard to like get use to it" Laughs Echeta
"I try sometimes to really push it aside but for some reasons the harder i try the more it makes me feel like i am treating myself like dirt. To share toilets at home with even a loved one without washing after they use before i even use is really beginning to annoy them like is my making. In fact i even insist on doing same for anyone who want to use after me too so it's not like i give myself preference over others, it's just a habit. Overtime i found out that things that don't matter much to people matter to me and you know people suffer certain body bizarre which make some of them form habits that help them feel comfortable over the bizarre. Many a time it might make them appear selfish but it isn't really the case, they find ways to comfortably exist. So on this day we were both in her room and something from her make up bag fell down she picked it up and after using it she went on to take her medication. Usually i will caution her to go wash her hands but i decided to let it slide. She has argued sometimes when i insist on her doing so that her floors are clean and there is no need. She then went on to take her medications, one of the tablet fell down after she had taken what she needed and she picked it up and dropped it in the container so i shouted mummy no! You shouldn't have. It's wrong! 'Free me o! (leave me alone in pidgin) my floors are clean!' She says in disgust. I told her the floors look clean but in real sense not clean clean like that. I mean you've stepped into you're toilet and back, you have also gone downstairs around the house and back with same sleepers even though they are indoors! 'Okay have i died now, besides the medcine is expensive' she exclaims in anger. Mummy i continued. It starts somewhere before it leads to death i tackled. There is something off about what you just did please and it's not right. I know she can be clumsy sometimes but i wasn't even judging her for that, trust me i love her either ways but it's quite unfortunate that people can't see you're heart sometimes to know you care about or love them. I was merely pointing out something wrong to her and she picked offense. Shortly after that my cousin who was visiting brought in a bowl of boiled corn and pear as afternoon snacks for us while we were still talking. She said 'Ada leave me alone please' she sat on her bed and started checking out the corn one by one for a soft one to eat and my dear i couldn't stand that. When i am irritated you already know there are these goose bumps that appears all over my body, So i started itching. I told her i can't eat the corn again as i expected her to at least wash her hands before eating. She queried my cousin for not separating the corn on separate bowl to avoid problems. 'Sister this is nothing nah' my cousin sister Ogechi said. (God's time) I am not wired that way Ogechi" i replied
"Have you found out then that it was based on a medical condition you have, you were experiencing those horomonal imbalances that caused you to react to situations that way" intercepts Cheta
"No i haven't found out then sweetie" says Heaven
"God is awesome wonderful creator. so in the heat of that conversation was when mumsy (funky way of calling mum in Nigeria) reffered to you're birth like that" continues Cheta
"Precisely" replies Heaven tearing up a bit.
"Eyeya! (an exclamation that depicts pity in pidgin) she took it too far. Did she later apologize?
"For where! I got over it" states Heaven
"Did you? Or it's somewhere in the heart digging itself up sometimes" implies Cheta
"I know right. I mean trust me my mum is not bad at heart, she can also be a fun person when she wants to but then we are all human right?" Throws Heaven
"Yeah i get but talking about it with her sometimes can help" emphasises Cheta
"You think i haven't tried most times she will just shun you like you're making a big deal out of nothing but when it's Obianauju she will give her full attention but like i said such is life and i don't really take many of these things to heart anymore." Says Heaven sulking a bit
At this time Echeta pulls over
"Problems with the car?" Inquires Heaven
"Nope i think you need a hug. Come here smiles Echeta with his arms wide open after he unbuckles his sit belt. Heaven also realeses her sit belt and went into Echeta's arm. A trusted friend turned husband for consolation.
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