Ezeabata In A Golden Marriage

CHAPTER 24

"Why do we women run our mouths and act surprised by the reaction of a husband as though if we switch positions and they did the same, we wouldn't react exact same way." Explains Heaven.

"Do you want to now talk about it?" Asks Echeta

"No! I just want to yell and scream!" Shouts Heaven in tears

"You know that wouldn't help, it's unnecessary drama that wouldn't solve anything" blurts out Echeta.

"So what would?" Cries heart broken Heaven uncontrollably, stuttering in between she says

"I ke...ep doin...g my... my best!"

"May be a little too much don't you think? Couples always have misunderstandings and it might be best sometimes to let them figure out what to do without being in their space. Moreover that is the best thing to do when you're out of ideas or don't know what to do. I mean all we can do now is may be hold them up in prayers. I know you have been doing that but have faith my sweet" says Cheta slipping his hands into Heaven's, being hopeful.

"Echeta if you live here, you will see how nerve wrecking these altercations can be." Says Heaven angrily

"Were they like this in their youth?" Asks Echeta

"Not always so but some times yes." Replies Heaven wiping tear drops away

"Lack of show of affection is definitely one thing they are lacking. My dad tries sometimes. What worries me more is that they hold leadership posts in church, you know" worries Heaven

"Any idea how they met?" Inquires Cheta

"Huh, of course i do but what does that have to do with anything anyways?" Wonders Heaven

"I am just curious kinda, also it will help make you feel better and hopeful." excitedly says Echeta

"Yeah, i guess" agrees Heaven. She hisses, sighs seeking energy to tell Cheta what he was waiting to hear.

"It wasn't much of a romantic story. My mum escorted a friend on errand, to my father's paternal auntie's house. The aunty on sighting my mum, thought to herself that this maiden will be suitable for her nephew. She inquired from my mum, about her family and where she came from and my mum, answered all her questions.

She later made her investigations and assures her nephew that, that is the right person for him. She is from a good family and is well brought up, she had said

My father's aunty on this particular day my mum escorted her friend on an errand again to her place, after they got what they came for from aunty, she in turn makes a request of them to help her deliver something to her brother's compound.

This of course, was intentional so that my father's father could behold this maiden whom his sister had advised would be suitable for her nephew Ezeabata. My father also being at home that day, seeing my mum for him was love at first sight.

Since then he went hard after her. I remember him telling me that he didn't bother if they were compatible as she was beautiful and he wanted to be a proud husband of this maiden moreover those days, nobody cared about compatibility neither were youths knowledgeable like now, about the requirements for a good marriage.

Most men then were only told "you are incharge" so naturally there was an assumption that nothing can go wrong, since you're incharge, the woman will follow suit. Most women too then understood that their role was to follow the leadership of their spouses and take care of their homes but these days the table has turned. The women want more with thier chants of feminism

My take on all these, is if a marriage is void of violence, the couple can as adults take responsibilities for the sakes of the children involved, and make things work with an open mind through marriage counselling and therapy.