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A Rant about PARENTS

welp I'm taking a break from my pOlITiKAl writings I guess.

To rant about PARENTS.

So there was this facebook post which said, 'I know I'm not a perfect parent. I know I make mistakes. But I love my children very much.'

And because I am VERY mentally and emotionally stable that post made me EXTREMELY mad.

I do think my vitriol towards that post is somewhat unjustified. After all the parent who posted this probably meant no harm. But I saw some people I KNOW in real life reshare, like and comment on the post- and let me just say, I don't think they're taking care of their kids very much. 

Who am I to judge parents? After all, I don't know what it's like to be a parent.

But I personally don't think you have to be something to tell that someone is not doing a good job. For example, if I write a shitty book a reader can definitely tell me I'm a shitty writer. I can't say 'OH HOW DARE YOU insult me what do you know about writing T-T !!!!! UwU you suck pls dye'

What really set me off about that post was really the HYPOCRISY.

You see, this post gained a lot of likes from parents in my country. Also, in my country, over 90% of kids face phsyical or verbal abuse at home. Over 80% of parents think it's OK to beat up their kids if the kids step out of line (eg, don't listen to them, don't perform well on tests).

Kids in my country get fun of for being fat, dark skinned, or having crooked teeth. Mothers force their daughters to wear braces because otherwise 'no one will marry them'. Parents beat up their kids for not scoring well on tests (getting less than 50% marks especially), threaten their kids with suicide (eg, 'if you don't do this I will just kill myself', 'your behavior makes me want to die'). 

Some parents also use their kids to fulfill their own pipe dreams. People who fail to be doctors say they want their kids to be doctors, and refuse to pay for their engineering tuitions, for example. 

If you ask a parent what their child wants to be in my country, there's a high chance the parent will say, 'My goal is to make my son study BBA.' (even though you asked 'what does your CHILD want?')

A few people who want to have a son, but end up having a daughter, makes their daughter dress in 'masculine clothes' and keep their hair short so they 'look like a boy.' They also address their daughter in the endearment that is used to address sons. Then they say they think of their daughter as their 'son', whatever the heck that means.

I do think children should try their hardest to please their parents. But not at the expense of their individual goals, and not when their parents suck.

After all this, the audacity of some parents to say, 'oh, I know  I make mistakes, I know I'm not perfect, but I still love my children UWU' just shocks me.

Dear Parents Who say This Shit,

Your child is not perfect. Your child makes mistakes. Your child is a KID, who's trying to create the best version of themselves, and get through life, and make you happy. They love you too. They love you too, but when a report card says 'D' and they put on weight or become darker skinned because of the sun's heat, what do you say?

You tell them they're worthless, that you regret spending so much money on them, that they're ugly, should wear braces so someone marries them, etc. They made a mistake. They're not perfect. But they love you. But do you really value that? Are you going to forgive them just because they 'love' you? Are you going to spare them from being scolded, being beaten up? 

No. 

You will not. 

If 'I love my parents but I'm not perfect' is a bad excuse, so is 'I make mistakes but I'm a parent'. In fact, it's an even worse excuse. Because one is an adult, and one is a child.