Her Spirit Crying Out

tears of a submissive

Unowned it's a powerful statement and one that strikes both stress fear and depression in the hearts of millions of submissives everywhere Now when most vanilla people hear this phrase they think wow that's a very strange concept so I thought I'd dive into that of it today submissives true submissives a wired differently than normal people we find the beauty in another soul we end up falling in love with somebody and having such a respect and trust and admiration for that person that we want to serve them this is the submissive side of what we call the power flow a lot of people don't understand that term so I'll explain when the submissive feels these things and kneels before another it is out of the highest respect and admiration we flow our power into our dominants who then take that power knowing everything we are and find inspiring and creative and fun ways to return that power to us being a dominant is a difficult job you can't just be like hey I want you to be my sub and I want you to do this and you to do that it doesn't work like that the dominant has to keep in mind at all times everything is submissives okay with everything he or she is not okay with things that excite her things that work for a little while but then get boring for her and I'm not just talking about sex this could be any day-to-day thing from activities to hobbies two careers the dominant Works twice as hard on themselves as they do on the submissive if the submissive is to correct your behavior they have to see that the dominant one not only greatly admires and appreciates this action but two is doing an even better job at this action than they are so it's not a hypocritical command a lot of people think that the dominants wield all the power and that can't be further from the truth and that's what a lot of people don't understand the submissives have given consent for everything and the dominants know what the submissives consent to if the dominant says Hey I want you to bend over this coffee table and the submissive says f*** no then it's no the dominant can't do anything in that situation or if the submissive is walking around in a heated argument the dominant can't just be like hey you need to kneel in front of me right now because it's a mess is going to be like fuckyourself and the dominant will lose power in that situation to Is So within this lifestyle there is a perfect amount of trust and love that goes into it a lot more goes into it then with vanilla people it has to because we're constantly pushing each other to become better pushing each other out of their comfort zones constantly when you truly develop that powerflow it's one of the most beautiful things in the world now with being unowned it's the exact opposite of the spectrum it's very scary and sad because we want that life partner we want that love we want that trust and yes of course we want that amazing sexual euphoric feeling as well but for us it hits a little deeper I'll use myself as a example I've worked as an EMT I've worked in law enforcement I have two certifications from Homeland Security I have three certifications for emergency medicine two certifications 4 firearms and firearm safety I'm a CPR first aid AED instructor and I'm a novelist I own my own house and my own car that's paid off and yet all of that means nothing to me I'm at the top of my game and all of my fields and it feels like somebody has ripped out my chest and filled it with concrete because I don't have that person to serve I don't have that person I respect and I love and I trust so much by my side so all of these accomplishments don't mean anything to me they simple boil down to all you know I've created a life for myself but in this dynamic I would rather everything flow onto another person a lot of people don't understand that so let's talk about it people always ask me you really dominance in every aspect of life why are you submissive that's exactly the point right there I am very dominant in every aspect of my life so when I'm submissive to that one person in the world it means everything to me it means I don't have to focus on anything as long as I'm with them I don't have to think about anything I don't have to worry about things I have to do the next day I don't have to think about my paycheck or bills that I have to pay I don't have to worry about safety I don't have to worry I'm not good enough they take on all that responsibility so the only thing I got to worry about is being a good girl I was given a command I just got to follow that one command and then I'll follow another one and another one it breaks life down in a very simple steps and even when it comes in the sex it's the same thing for me if I'm chained down or if I'm being walked on a leash with a collar around my neck I simply only have to focus on the pleasure that I'm given there's nothing else in the world that matters in that moment and that's truly beautiful and I think that's a very big reason it hurts for so many submissives to be unowned is because we don't have that so stress naturally builds up for us millions of times faster than it would for any vanilla person and it can take many forms from sadness to depression to anger to worrying if we're good enough as submissive as we usually smile the most especially around vanilla family and friends we crack jokes we tell stories then we try to act normal because we know that they truly won't get it what you just kind of infuriates us more so it's very sad and it's a very lonely life when you don't have that person to talk to which is why people in the lifestyle is so close but even that doesn't replace that lonely void that sits inside our mind our heart our soul and our chest-rachel