Lessons I learnt from life.

Chapter 18: From 2017

Lesson I learnt from 2017

I think one of the biggest lessons I have learnt is not to share my happiness with anyone. Be it anyone. My friends, my family so and so forth because, you know what happens sometimes, you are at a different vibe than them or  vice versa. Sometimes, you are so happy that you can't help but blurt out how ecstatic you are but the person infront of you may not feel the same. Not because they are not happy for you but because they are not in the mood but mostly it is because they are not happy with your happiness. 

And what happens when someone is not happy with your happiness? A little tingly feeling in the corner of their heart starts to reside, that's right. Jealousy. 

Jealousy or inferiority complex leads to disasters. Honestly, you might have not noticed the change in someone's tone when they see you happy. Their facial expressions or anything they say except what you wanna hear, 'I am so happy for you' 

So lesson one, my dear folks. Stay lowkey. Don't share your happiness with anyone except you and except the people who are genuinely happy for you. 

Moving on to lesson two. 

I have come to this conclusion that people will always have problems with some or the other thing. They can never be fully pleased neither satisfied. Even if you were to be a perfectionist in something, chances are, you were being judged on the basis of the littlest of flaws of yours. 

People, I tell you. Can never be pleased or satisfied. Get that reminder inked to your brain so next time when you start to wonder 'what will people think about it' you instead start to think 'Heck, I am here for a good time not a long time' 

Basically, what I have learnt from my personal experience is that, you can do whatever you want as long as you are not causing grief to any person around you. You can do whatever you believe you can as long as nobody is getting harmed by what you do. No person, be it your family, your friends, your colleagues or anyone. NOBODY is going to come to your grave. You came into this world alone and you are going to die alone. So why should it bother you so much about what people think of you?

Be it good or bad. What people think about you should never be a major consideration at any point in your life. They haven't lived in your shoes, they have not given you food, clothes and shelter. They have not known your story. They have not breathed in the same skin as yours. You are unique in your own way, your personality, your thinking process, your skin, your freckles, your flaws, your perfection, your body, your aura, your speech, your smile. Everything that god gave you is your own thing that differs you from other people so why should you care about fitting in them when god made you to differ from others? 

Aren't you doing injustice to what you are and what god has given you? Of course you are. So step up your game loves, in no way you should be letting people affect you and what you do in 2018. 

So that was all about lesson two. 

Moving on to lesson three. 

Lesson three is for the insecure ones, the ones who are lonely  and always thinking and overthinking about unnecessary things. 

To begin with this topic, I have not fully learned how to deal with my insecurities either but the only reason why I am writing this is because I have not made it a big deal. I know I have my own flaws. I know I have many insecurities but none of that matter when I begin to think of what a dime I am. 

From my personal experience I can say, when you start to love yourself the way you expect others to do, none of your insecurities will come in your way. I can't focus more on how much self- love is important. Especially if you are some teenager stuck with some crappy teenage love. 

Teenage love is the biggest bin of love. The ugliest, raw and so immature. 

I want to address all my girls here, you don't realise your worth sweetheart. You don't know who you are and what you deserve. You don't deserve someone who is unsure about you, who is not ready for a commitment with you. You don't deserve someone who doesn't value you. Who doesn't see what gem of a person you are and what they have when they have you. YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE ANYTHING LESS THAN A QUEEN. Period. 

My ladies, before going into this love thing with any guy think about how much you love yourself. If you love yourself enough then only you won't give yourself to anyone who treats you like crap because by then you know what you should be treated like. Self love is important to realise what you deserve. What you want and who can give you that. Don't settle for someone who is all about words but nothing in action. Who can just blabber about how much they love you but their actions prove otherwise. You don't deserve this. You don't. 

And the same thing goes for boys. You don't deserve a girl who doesn't value you when you have nothing in your pocket. You don't deserve a girl who is not there to support you or encourage you to do bigger and achieve greater things in life. 

Girls and boys, both of you. You both deserve each other when you are fully aware of what you deserve and you know when to walk away from the person when they no longer push you towards your goal or they do not make your soul sing and dance in happiness. They key word being soul here. 

So that's about lesson three

Moving on to the lesson four. 

Bottomline of 2017 is, I have learned to be grateful in every circumstance life throws at me. Because there is some wisdom, some hidden blessing, some lesson that comes along with everything that we go through year after year. 

The wisdom, the lesson and the hidden blessing is beyond my mind's ability to comprehend but I have this strong intuition that it is there somewhere to teach me the essence of life. 

So tell me what is the life that you have lived without taking a step back and reflecting on it? 

Tell me what it taught you when you fell and what you learnt when you rose to your feet. Tell me how it felt when your heart was shattered into pieces and how you stitched back every shattered piece. Tell me how the sky looked like when you were sad and how the moon shone bright when you were in tears of joy. Tell me how you learnt to be confident in your own skin and how you embraced your own fears. Tell me how you were at the verge of giving up and about what made you want to live your life. Tell me that you love yourself more than anyone else can do and you don't deserve to be half loved by any fool. Tell me how many tears your pillow have soaked and how many smiles you have given in charity. Tell me how you were going to die and tell me how you lived. 

Tell me and teach me all that you have learnt so I could let the world know that I knew someone as phenomenal as you.

Until next time, 

Take care.

Em