If you refuse to see a cloud as anything but darkness and gloom, how can you expect to see a silver lining?
Don't be so adamant that you'll always be sad or in pain or hurt or depressed or angry. Happiness (contentment) IS possible. It's not impossible for a person to feel more than one thing.
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It's okay to not be okay. But don't you dare lie to yourself and convince yourself that you'll never be okay. You need to change your attitude about it.
