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#42: How to; Dealing with fake friends

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#42: How to; Dealing with fake friends

Fake friends. Just-ugh, don't get me started on how much they piss the absolute living daylights out of me. I can completely understand if they don't feel like smiling all the time and your mood isn't always la-di-da, but when they do something totally unexpected, that I can't understand.  Like for example, when they shit-talk about you behind your back, ditch you in tough situations, negative change of personality, play with your feelings (see tutorial #30) etc. Here, I will be telling all of you amazing readers how to deal with situations like these.

Note: Fake friends sit into many different categories, and that are mentioned in this chapter are just a hand ful. Please keep in mind that these are solutions which have personally worked on me, or others close to me. I've dealt with fake friends many times (ugh) in my life, so I'm giving you advice based on personal experiences. This is just like a heart-to-heart between the writer and reader-aw!

Situation 1: Imagine your bestfriend, the one that you grew up with and has had your back ever since, talking about you behind your back.  Yes, the one that you shared so many 'firsts' with. She taught you how to use a pad/tampon, helped you pull out your first wobbly baby tooth becuase you were too much of a pussy to do so. Word has it that she has been saying quite nasty things behind your back. People warn you about her and her little games but your too caught up with the 'perfect bestfriend' image she wants you to believe in. I mean, they must be wrong right? You know her way more than they do. At the end of the day rumours are just rumours right? 

Solution 1: Brace yourself here, because imma just be brutally honest right now. This biatch has a double life. She literally is suffering from a multiple personality disorder. But lets just narrow them down to two for the moment. The first one, she's very kind, sweet, easy to get along with and shares many similarities with you. The second one, well-i'm sure you can guess. Yes, I said rumours are rumours, but when you start seeing a change of personality to provide evidence for this investigation, these 'rumours' turn into reality. You must take action. Don't let someone degrade your worth and if they are not grateful for you, then let them learn the hard way. Remember when someone stops talking to you, they start talking about you.

Situation 2:  You've noticed that your friend has sort of-well, changed. And unfortunately, not for the better. This person also seems distant. 

Solution 2: Well, for starters he/she is probably going through a faze at the moment. Tell them your opinion and how you feel about this 'new personality'. But i'm just going to tell you know that there is a 90% chance that this idiot will ignore you. If the odds are in your favour and they do snap to their senses quite quickly then you got yourself a keeper. But if your friend is still being an ass, give them space. As hard as it might seem, this is usually the most important step. When they try to contact you this is what you say. "Listen here, f*ck face. Things aren't the same between us right now, and it aint my fault. So unless you pull your head out of your ass, I'll do it for you". Yes, I know this seems quite harsh but I don't do beating around the bush, just rip the band aid straight off.

Situation 3:You and your closest friend get on extremely well-obviously. But this person tends to have this bad habit. Where they ditch you in tough or important situations. Like when your boyfriend cheated on you, she wasn't the shoulder to cry on like you thought she would be. Or remember the time when you had the flu for a week aswell as extremely bad period cramps. Let me guess, this person didn't come with ice cream, chocolates and your favourite stack of chick flicks. These might not be the best examples, but hopefully you get my point.

Solution 3: The reason why this person is still hanging around is because your in the state of denial. Denying the fact that your bestfriends with a ditcher. It's as simple as that. Your friends constant ditching ain't gon cut it for me. And it shouldn't for you either. You've given way too many chances. Yes, second chances are great but its common to find us giving them out to the wrong people. Remember that. So if you haven't realized what you should do, it's to let his person go.

Situation 4: Your friend is constantly bringing you up, yet at the same time putting you down. They don't support some decisions that you choose to make, they usually tend to look at things in a negative light, they even make fun of you at times. No, I don't mean in the cute kinda teasing, more like adding salt to the wound type. This assface doesn't realize how much words can hurt sometimes, regardless of who it's coming from.

Solution 4: Why are you still friends? You get no good out of this so-called 'friendship', so why are you putting yourself out there, only to be left dissapointed? He/she is just dead weight. If they aren't putting in as much as effort as you do, then adios! You can achieve much more greater things in life without him/her. 

I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas! Tell me what you got and how you celebrated it below-I'd love to hear all about it!

Until next time,

Aya ( @Dream_Catchersxo )