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Disclaimer: The monologue by Karishma in the upcoming update might be upsetting or triggering for some users, but this is solely my point, and the circumstances and topics may change. Please understand that everyone has their own experiences, and while I wrote this from Karishma's point of view, it is entirely my experience that I have shared, just in case anyone finds anything offensive or incorrect. Bullying can range from being mild to being brutal. Please don't comment here unless you want to be heard. I'm grateful.

Saying this Haseena turns to go, but is interfered by Karishma..

KS- Magar hum kuch kehna chahte hai Maddam Sir.

Haseena looks at Karishma and gives a nod to proceed.

Karishma comes a little forward towards the media, everyone gathers their mic towards Karishma.

KS- Dekhiye, hum naa toh abhi uss ladki ke baare mai kuch kehna chah rahe hai, naa hi Samairaa Vashisht ke baare mai. Hum abhi filhaal har parents, students aur teachers ko ek message Dena chahte hai. Jisme hume aapki madad chahiye.

One among the reporters- Please go ahead Ma'am.

KS- Ji Dhanyawad.
Aaj humara aab sab se ek bhut khaas vishay mai charcha karna hai, yeh ek aise cheez hai, jo humare saath toh kabhi humare aas paas hoti rehti hai, aur hum ussey ignore kar dete hai. Kabhi toh itna nazandaaz karte hai, ki humare samne woh hota hai aur hum ussey samajh nai paatey.
'Bullying' yeh ek aisi activity hai jiski wajah se naa jaane kitne students aur workers ne suicide kiya hai.

Aur hum jhooth nai kahenge, inn sab mai jinka sabse bada haath hota hai, woh hai Parenting aur Teaching.

Ek bache ke pehle teacher hote hai uske maa aur baap, jab woh tumhare needs, thoughts, problems ko ignore karenge woh bacha kaise ussey express kar payega, aur kisse karega.

Aksar hota hai, hum chote rehte hai, tabhi se yeh chidna- chidhana (taunting), maarna- peetna (fights), showbazi (show-off) start ho jaata hai.
Koi agar kamzor hai toh ussey aur dabaya jaata hai, tang Kiya jaata hai. Aur jab woh apne parents se complain karta hai, tab parents koi step nai lete, yeh samajh kar ki, 'bache hai, yeh sab toh chalta rehta hai' naa toh jiske saath hota hai, uske parents yeh sab rokne ki koshish karte hai, naa hi jinke bache yeh sab karte hai.

Hum jaante hai kuch parents yeh sochte hai ki jab bache mature honge tab unhe apne aap samajh mai aayega, par kya aap sure hai? Kya pta tab bully karna unki aadat ban jaaye, aur kamzor bachon ko dabna unki. Woh fir kabhi awaj nai utha paayenge, apne liye. Kyu?
Kyuki bachpan se toh iss buri aadat ko normalize kar diya gaya.

Chahe jitna bhi dimaag mai asar pade woh bache ko lagega yeh normal hai toh woh sahega, aur fir ek din chala jayega depression mai. Aur tab jab woh aapse dur bhagega, aapke aur aapke bachon mai koi bonding nai rahegi tab pta chalega ki woh asal duniya se kitni dur Jaa chuki hai yaa jaa chuka hai. Tab woh kisi se matlab nai rakhenge kyuki jab unko jarurat thi unke saath unke parents khade nai hue the.

Khair kai baar toh hota hai, humare maata pita hai, humare trauma yaa bully ke reason hote hai.

Har samay dusron se compare karna, baat baat par kamiyan nikalna, har waqt kosna, naa jagah dekha naa time dekha aur lag gaye apne bache ki burai mai, woh bhi kaafi gehra asar chodh jaata hai.

Aapko lagta hai aap reverse psychology ke jariye apne bachon ko encourage kar rahe ho, par aapko bhi nai pta chalta woh humiliation hai, bully ka dusra factor.

Karishma pauses and looks at Phuspa Singh for a few seconds.

Ab aata hai school, humne kai jagah dekha hai, primary school mai har bache apne teachers ko apna idol, apne mentor maante hai, unke liye unki teachers ki kahi baatein, patthar ki lakeer hoti hai, woh jo bole woh sahi.