Entitled Parents

EM gets thrown in jail and blames everyone but herself

 A few years ago, my mom ended up in jail for knowingly and intentionally violating a court order, which, as any person would guess, is illegal. She was fully aware that what she did was illegal, but according to her, it was everyone else's fault but her's. In her eyes, she was allowed to do whatever she wanted to do because she was a "struggling single mother who just wanted to provide for her kids."

Anyway, after her arrest, I had to go live with some rather distant relatives I hadn't met during my life time until then, since my mom was really my only custodial figure. My relatives, a distant aunt and uncle whose daughter married into our family, were absolutely lovely people and were happy to take me in until the thing with my mom blew over (it never did). After living with my mother for my whole life and dealing with her bullshit, I was so incredibly happy to be living with other people. They treated me like more of a daughter than my mom ever did, and honestly, they parented me more in a month than my mom had in the previous 3 years.

Naturally, if my mom isn't making everyone miserable, she's not living. Even behind bars, she was tormenting me. Everyday, she would call the landline at my aunt and uncle's house. She would call four times. Then, when no one answered, she would call my uncle's cell phone, twice. Then, when he didn't answer, she'd call my aunt's cell, twice. She did this from 8 to 9 in the morning, then 2 to 3 in the afternoon. Don't ask me how this woman got so may damn phone calls in literal jail. Why were we purposely dodging her calls? I'll tell you.

At first we would answer the calls, and try to entertain her. I would pick up, say, "Hello?" and receive nothing but endless screaming from the other end. "IN CASE YOU HAVEN'T NOTICED, I AM IN JAIL!" she would say, as if that was like, not to my own knowledge. That would be followed by some more screaming about how awful it is and she doesn't have toothpaste or can't wear earrings in jail like I'm supposed to do something about that. Then she would make her demands.

"YOU need to get me out of here. You need to get me a lawyer, and you better do it FAST, I don't have time for bullshit." At the time this was occurring, I was 15. I was busy with school most of the time, this was not a priority of mine. I said, "...You get a public defender though?"

She went insane.

"CAN YOU NOT ACT FUCKING STUPID? I need more than an idiot straight of law school, I need someone who will give a damn and actually help me!"

"...Okay."

My stupid teenage self actually sat down and went through a white pages, calling attorneys and leaving voice messages. Most of them were confused as to why me, a child, was calling in for a grown ass woman. Pretty much every attorney I could get to call me back either said they didn't take cases such as my mom's, they were busy with other cases, or just a flat "no" because they didn't want to. All very valid reasons.

My mom didn't like hearing this. She accused me of lying about calling any attorneys, and that I was just making shit up so I didn't have to do anything. She asked why my aunt and uncle weren't helping me, and I just said "idk" but really, they couldn't stand my mom. They recognized she was abusing me and just being a trashy childish person in general, so naturally, they decided to stay out of this mess. Which I completely agree with.

Soon enough my mom took her demands a step further, telling me I needed to write into Dr. Phil, Nancy Grace, and Oprah. She said she "needed her case to have national attention." I knew this was a fucking stupid idea when I heard it. Like any of these people give a shit about my idiot mom getting herself tossed in jail. I did it anyway. I never got any responses, which I expected. Mom didn't like that one either.

This is where we get super saiyan Entitled Mom. I was in a grocery store one day, and I saw one of my mom's old coworkers. My mom used to work at a thrift store that was affiliated with a women's charity organization that dealt with domestic violence and drug abuse. We said hello and then he asks me, "Is your mom still in jail?" I said yes, and asked how he knew about that. It was never on the news. He then told me that my mother had sent him a 15 page handwritten letter, asking the organization to start an individual charity fund JUST FOR HER to cover her bail, attorney costs, and court fees. Additionally, she asked that it the minimum goal be ONE MILLION DOLLARS. This is not a joke, okay. My mom dead ass tried to start a gofundme from behind bars. She didn't write into the local paper or maybe some personal friends (she had none), she wrote to an organization that helps women get into rehab programs and out of abusive marriages. This woman had the audacity to beg for money from an group that DOESN'T CARE ABOUT IDIOTS IN JAIL. Her argument? "I'm a single mom..."

Being a single mom sucks and it's hard, but this woman did nothing to ever change our financial situation. She didn't work for nearly a decade for no reason other than laziness, briefly worked odd part-time jobs here and there, and then stopped working again. My jaw dropped to the floor when her coworker told me this. I was so embarrassed.

Finally, one attorney I called before called me back and told me his rates, what he thought of the case, etc. I relayed this message to my mom, and what does she say? "Why is he charging me? Did you tell him I'm a single mom? He should be taking my case for free, obviously I don't have that kind of money."

Both I and my aunt and uncle were sick of this shit, so finally, we unhooked the landline, and only turned on our cell phones after 3 pm.

I literally don't know how I am a product of my mom's genes. She's completely off her rocker.