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In todays time, people are labelling whatever they find hard or what they dont have knowledge about, as haraam. And this is completely wrong.

Theres a difference between something which is hard and something which is haraam. Things depend on peoples intentions, and only Allah knows what is inside a persons heart, so saying that a person is a sinner or is engaged in something unlawful, without proof is incorrect.

Theres a saying which goes... " never laugh on a persons mistake, he might have been forgiven by Allah for his mistakes, but Allah might punish you for your arrogance"

1. Adoption in Islam-

is not haraam, and yes a thing like this could never be a sin, but it comes with certain restrictions or limitations.

Allah and His Messenger (saws) have time and again exhorted and encouraged the believers to take special care of the orphans in society, and Allah Subhanah has promised an unending reward for those believers who adopt or sponsor orphans and treat them well for the sake of Allah Subhanah.

To declare or assume that it is impermissible or discouraged in Islam to actually adopt a child is absolutely inaccurate. There is allowance in Shariah (Islamic Law) to do both, sponsor as well as actually adopt a child. And Allah Alone Knows Best.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran
Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 220:
…..They ask thee (O Prophet (saws)) concerning orphans.
Say, "The best thing to do is what is for their good.”

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4974        Narrated by Abu Umamah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "If anyone strokes an orphan's head, doing so only for Allah's Sake, he will have blessings for every hair over which his hand passes, and if anyone treats well an orphan girl or boy under his care, he and I (Prophet Mohamed (saws)) shall be like these two in Paradise," putting two of his fingers together!

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4973        Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "The best house among the Muslims is one which contains an orphan who is well treated, and the worst house among the Muslims is one which contains an orphan who is badly treated."

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verses 4
Allah has not made for any man two hearts in his (one) body, nor has He made your wives whom ye divorce by Zihar your mothers, nor has He made your adopted sons your sons.  Such is (only) your (manner of) speech by your mouths.  But Allah tells (you) the Truth and He shows the (right) Way.

-> Who is an orphan?

Any child (male or female) who has no father or whose father has died and the child has not reached the age of understanding or marriage (+/- 16 years) will be classified as a ‘yateem’ or an orphan in Islamic Jurisprudence.

-> The adopted children must be called by the names of their biological fathers, and not by the name of their adopted father.

-> The adopted child (if boy) will remain a non-mehram of the adopted mother and she must practice veling in front of him once the boy reaches the age of puberty, unless the adopted mother suckles/breastfeeds the boy in his infancy (below two years of age).

The adopted child (if girl) will remain a non-mehram of the adopted father and the girl must veil herself in front of the adopted father once she reaches the age of puberty, unless the mother has suckled the girl in her infancy.

Example, Salma has her own daughter Ishaama, and she adopts a boy, Harun, who is less then 2yrs old and she breastfeeds him. Now Harun has become Salmas mehram. Then a few years later Salma has another daughter, Khatija. Now Harun and Khadija are mehrams ( milk brother and sister or siblings by milk) but Harun is non mehram for Ishama, because they are neither related by blood or milk.

-> The child will only inherit from his original blood-relationship. He will not be eligible to inherit from his foster-parents. The foster-parents who adopt the child have the option to will or bequeath upto a maximum of one/third of their wealth to their adopted children after their death, if they wish to do so

-> Bukhari

Asma' bint 'Ubayd said, "I said to Ibn Sirin, 'I have an orphan in my care.' He said, 'Treat him as you would treat your own child. Beat him as you would beat your own child.'"

Other than the above few legal conditions, one must honor and treat their adopted children with fairness and justice in all other aspects of life; and seek and expect their enormous and unending rewards from the Lord Most Merciful on the Day of Judgment.

2. Punishments according to Shariah (Islamic Law)

People say that punishments according to Islamic Law are brutal, but are they?

These punishments gives us a sense of safety, because before committing a crime, the person would literally think it over a hundred times.

We are after all humans, and the only think that stops us from committing a sin or a bad thing, robbing, stealing, rapeing, murdering, is fear, fear of the punishments these things would bring upon us.

When Islamic Laws implement a punishment, they are brutal. But when humans want to implement the same punishment, thats justice!!!!

For example, punishment for rape, in Islam, rape is punishable by death. And that was implemented 1400yrs ago.

And it is only now that the humans have realized, that they should too implement the same punishment, in their judiciary, so as to reduce the incidences of rape, and to give the victim JUSTICE.

3. Calling someone a sinner or dweller of hell

The Prophet Muhammad SAWS said: “Whoever conceals the faults of others, Allah shall conceal his faults on the day of Qiyaamah.” (Mishkaat)

-> If one becomes aware of somebody elses sin, he should keep it a secret.

Allahs Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "He, who relieves a hardship of this Dunya (world) for a believer, Allah will relieve (from him) a hardship of the Day of Resurrection; he who makes easy an indebted person, Allah will make it easy for him in the Dunya and the Hereafter; he who covers a Muslim (meaning his mistakes and shortcomings) , Allah will cover him in the Dunya and the Hereafter " [Sahih Muslim]

-> Only Allah alone knows what is in the hearts of a person, so never judge them.

Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.

-> When a female is dressed in a manner that is unacceptable islamically, do not even, for a moment think that she is lower than you spiritually. If you do that you are lower than her. Believe me that is the teaching of our religion. She might have a link with her creator that you do not know about. She might have a heart that is tons better than yours. She might have one weakness that is outward and you have 50 weaknesses that are hidden.

-> We do not know which action of ours might save us from hell fire and which action might cost us paradise.

So lets do ourselves a favor and start pointing fingers at our own mistakes and strive hard to correct them and lets just let other be.

-> We dont have any right to point fingers at others, we are humans too, just like them. Pointing fingers at others just proves one thing, that there are others out there, doing the same for YOU.

Only Allah forgives sins, Only through His approval will we enter Paradise for eternity. He alone has the right to Judge us, because He alone knows our sufferings and He is the Only one who can ease them.

Be not of the arrogant and find faults in people.

People make mistakes, they sin. Hate the sin, NOT the person.