A Girl's Guide

How to: Get Over Certain People

We all have those times where we come to the realisation that we need to get over certain people like: friends that just leave,  two-faced friends, friendship rivalry and enemies.

Friends that leave you: What I mean by this is when you are really close with someone and they either leave the city they're living in or moving schools and don't even bother to remain in contact. (I'm speaking from experience here). One way or another, you have to admit to yourself that they don't care about you anymore and It's time for you to do the same. If you still cannot get them out of your mind, think about what they are doing right now, probably having fun and not even thinking about you. Tell yourself, "if it was that easy to forget about me, it should be that easy to forget about her". OR if you are that type of person who doesn't like facing reality (you need to change your ways though, it's not good) you could just tell yourself that your friendship just took seperate paths that was not meant to cross. Basically you are both better off without eachother.

Enemies: We all have that one childhood enemy that we used to hate. However, once you leave childhood and enter your teenage/older years, you must let go of the past and stop hating against eachother. It's the only other mature way to handle this hate/hate situation (if you also count ignoring eachother). Try looking back on your childhood loathing for them and maybe those memories might cause you to laugh or even have second thoughts about your hate. If your "former enemy" refuses to even up with you and at least try and recreate the friendship you never had, be the bigger and more mature person and try talking CALMLY to them and explain how silly you both were as kids etc. If THAT doesn't work try talking to their friends and have them try to persuade your enemy to change their ways. If not, sadly, you have to go to Plan B and ignore them. :O

Two-faced friends: Friends that you spill all your secrets/problems to without fear that they will spread it around, are great and obviously very trustworthy. However the real problem happens when one of your friends do exactly that: gossips and spreads without your permission. Please restrain yourself from spreading THEIR secrets and rumors around as that will push them to give out more of your personal details and even make up false stuff about you. Instead, try speaking to them in a calm and kind tone and explain what you have against them doing this and wait for a decent reply back. If their "excuse" lacks in honesty and is just really stupid, I suggest you take action and speak to a teacher or their friends about this. They may then have a quick chat to your "friend" and maybe persuade her to change her ways. However, all this two-faced friend problems mainly only happens to kids and teens. It very rarely, almost NEVER happens to adults.

Friendship rivalry: Friendship rivalry is when you are in a friendship in which you feel like you are both pretending to like eachother (as friends) however in reality you are like in a competition in almost everything. To be honest, you are just wasting your time and energy and it is pretty stupid. You just have to snap out if it and back away. Still don't get it? Here is an example of friendship rivalry:

Friend 1: "Hey! Guess what my mother just bought me? It's this little puppy and I'm gonna name it *random name*. She's soooo cute!"

Friend 2: "Oh nice. Well my mother said she's gonna buy me like four puppies so they are never alone and *starts saying random crap*. And she's gonna buy them all gold name tags to wear and it's REAL GOLD!"

Friend 1: "Well my mother said..."

You get the point:-)

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