2:36 a.m.
hi! i was gonna write two days ago, but i kept pushing it off. anyways, today (yesterday, now) was world mental health day, so i want to do some check-ins with myself here. i'm gonna answer some questions that @shityoushouldcareabout on ig posted. :)
1. how am i? really.
i'm okay, i think. i'm not too stressed out right now. balancing schoolwork isn't incredibly difficult. i've been so unmotivated to work out, especially alone. some days, i want to just lie in bed all day and not do anything, but unfortunately, that's impossible. i miss vy everyday, but i'm okay. i miss having friends around and social interaction outside of my house in general, but again, i'm okay. i miss having things to focus on like the vision, but i'm starting to get involved in clubs, so i guess that's okay, too. so, i don't really know how i am.
when people ask for one word to describe my life right now, i say "stagnant." it's been put on hold. no adventure, no excitement, nothing to feed my curiosity and free spirit. yet time moves on past me. i have to go to class and do my chores and prepare meals. but everything feels lifeless. it's why i love video chatting with my friends, but i don't want to be a bother and ask people all the time. i spend a lot of time just on my phone in bed wanting to facetime or zoom someone, even if we just lay there and talk here and there. sometimes, vy and i do it. it mimics having a friend in my room just chilling. we do our own things and speak up to show each other a tiktok or laugh about something that happened that day or eat food together without exchanging many words at all. i just want that casual interaction. i miss it all.
but yeah, i'm good i think? for the most part. today (like, actually today october 11) is national coming out day and another reminder that i'm so afraid coming out to my family and angry that i feel that way. i wrote a 3-page coming out letter to my mom about a year ago but never gave it to her. so now, every national coming out day that i haven't come out will always be a reminder of the pain i went through at the beginning of senior year trying to process the fact that my mom might be on to me and obviously doesn't accept it. it's a long story. maybe i'll tell it another time. long story short, lots of tears were shed, and we got nowhere.
2. have i checked in on my mates lately? my quiet mates? my loud mates? my work mates?
no, i haven't. i used to a lot more often when i actually talked to people often. now i can't even bring myself to text someone i miss. sometimes i check in with my juniors.
3. am i getting enough sleep?
no, but i don't care. i'm trying to care, but i just can't. it's never a priority, and i have such a hard time disciplining myself to put my phone away and go to sleep. i always just let my body start to shut down as a sign to go to sleep. i always push it, and i don't know how to control myself.
4. do i know my boundaries? should i set some?
not really. what boundaries are we talking here? like, mental, i assume? no, i don't. how many hours without sleep is too much? i don't know. so far, this semester, my record is 36. how much can i procrastinate an assignment before needing to start without stressing myself out? i don't know. i never don't stress myself out in order to complete assignments. majority of my assignments are done last minute. i say it's cause the adrenaline rush gets me speeding, but i think i just don't have any self-discipline and control for these kinds of things. i think, in my head, i decide on the order that i do things based on how easy they are, how severe the consequences will be if i were to not do it at all, and how easy it is to make an excuse and buy myself extra time. here are some examples.
russian homework is easy--no analysis, i love taking notes it's so easy when i don't have to put too much thought into it, i know exactly how much work there is because the exact exercises are listed out in advance, if i need to turn it in late i apologize for the tardiness in an email and still receive full credit, if i need/want to miss a class (and this is for all zoom classes except rotc) i email about my shitty wifi or an emergency and get away with it. as a result, this can either be something i do first because it's easy, or it's something i do at the last minute for the same reason lmao.
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2020 journal
Non-Fictionuh yeah so this is my journal for 2020. AND IF YOU KNOW WHO I AM OR FIGURE IT OUT BY READING THIS PLEASE DONT EVER BRING IT UP TO ME OR ANYONE ELSE. THIS IS LIKE MY DEEPEST MOST UNFILTERED AND PERSONAL THOUGHTS SO PLEASE FOR THE SAKE OF MY SANITY T...