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Advice Request
The requestor wants to tone down their voice as to not come off as annoying.

Answered Submission
Hi, Dear!

Let me tell you that you're doing great! You just have to remember that Rome wasn't built in a day. It will take a lot of time for you to master a proper volume while you speak.

I'm a loud person too, and my friend is louder than I am, yet she's the one who's mild. From what I have observed, she doesn't really talk unless she's talked to or if she's with a very close friend.

I think you should try to practice silence in addition to speaking in a low voice. This actually makes people ask you to speak sometimes.

Loud isn't always rude; it's your tone, your facial expression, AND your words that contribute to you being rude or not.

Here's my advice: give it time. Observe and note what helps you with this subject. In a few months, you will be able to see at least some difference, even if it's not much. Change is never sudden; it happens gradually. So be patient, and don't expect things and especially yourself to change in a day or even a week!

All the best,
The Advice Column Team